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Live Positive Way - Have Patience

Once there was a sweeper in a well known temple and he was very sincere and devoted.

Every time he saw thousands of devotees coming to take darshan of the Lord, he thought that the Lord is standing all the time and giving darshan and He must be feeling very tired.  So one day very innocently he asked the Lord whether he can take the place of the Lord for a day so that the Lord can have some relief and rest. The Deity of Temple replied, "I do not mind taking a break. I will transform you like Myself, but you must do one thing, you must just stand here like Me, smile at everyone and just give benedictions.  Do not interfere with anything and do not say anything. Remember you are the deity and you just have faith that I have a master plan for everything." The sweeper agreed to this.

The next day the sweeper took the position of the deity and a rich man came and prayed to the Lord.  He offered a nice donation and prayed that his business should be prosperous. While going, the rich man inadvertently left his wallet full of money right there.  Now the sweeper in the form of deity could not call him and so he decided to control himself and keep quiet.

Just then a poor man came and he put one coin in the Hundi and said that it was all he could afford and he prayed to the Lord that he should continue to be engaged in the Lord's service.  He also said that his family was in dire need of some basic needs but he left it to the good hands of the Lord to give some solution.  When he opened his eyes, he saw the wallet left by the rich man.  The poor man thanked the Lord for His kindness and took the wallet very innocently. 

The sweeper in the form of the Deity could not say anything and he had to just keep smiling.  At that point a sailor walked in. He prayed for his safe journey as he was going on a long trip.  Just then the rich man came with the police and said that somebody has stolen his wallet and seeing the sailor there, he asked the police to arrest him thinking that he might have taken it.  Now the sweeper in the form of Deity wanted to say that the sailor is not the thief but he could not say so and he became greatly frustrated. 

The sailor looked at the Lord and asked why he, an innocent person, is being punished.  The rich man looked at the Lord and thanked Him for finding the thief. The sweeper in the deity form could no more tolerate and he thought that even if the real Lord had been here, he would have definitely interfered and hence he started speaking and said that the sailor is not the thief but it was the poor man who took away the wallet. The rich man was very thankful as also the sailor.

In the night, the real Lord came and He asked the sweeper how the day was. The sweeper said, "I thought it would be easy, but now I know that Your days are not easy, but I did one good thing."  Then he explained the whole episode to the Lord.  The Lord became very upset on hearing this whereas the sweeper thought the Lord would appreciate him for the good deed done.

The Lord asked, "Why did you not just stick to the plan? You had no faith in Me. Do you think that I do not understand the hearts of all those who come here? All the donation which the rich man gave was all stolen money and it is only a fraction of what he really has and he wants Me to reciprocate unlimitedly. The single coin offered by the poor man was the last coin he was having and

he gave it to Me out of faith. The sailor might not have done anything wrong, but if the sailor were to go in the ship that night he was about to die because of bad weather and instead if he is arrested he would be in the jail and he would have been saved form a greater calamity.  The wallet should go to the poor man because he will use it in My service.  I was going to reduce the rich man's karma also by doing this and save the sailor also. But you cancelled everything because you thought you know My plan and you made your own plans." 

Moral: God has plans and justice for everyone....We just have to have patience!!!!!

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Live Positive Way

Speech by Chetan Bhagat at Symbiosis ...

Don't just have career or academic goals. Set goals to give you a balanced, successful life. I use the word balanced before successful. Balanced means ensuring your health, relationships, mental peace are all in good order.

There is no point of getting a promotion on the day of your breakup. There is no fun in driving a car if your back hurts. Shopping is not enjoyable if your mind is full of tensions.

"Life is one of those races in nursery school where you have to run with a marble in a spoon kept in your mouth. If the marble falls, there is no point coming first. Same is with life where health and relationships are the marble. Your striving is only worth it if there is harmony in your life. Else, you may achieve the success, but this spark, this feeling of being excited and alive, will start to die.

One thing about nurturing the spark - don't take life seriously. Life is not meant to be taken seriously, as we are really temporary here. We are like a pre-paid card with limited validity. If we are lucky, we may last another 50 years. And 50 years is just 2,500 weekends. Do we really need to get so worked up?

It's ok, bunk a few classes, scoring low in couple of papers, goof up a few interviews, take leave from work, fall in love, little fights with your spouse. We are people, not programmed devices.

"Don't be serious, be sincere."!

Happy New Year 2013!

The Old Year has gone.  Let the dead past bury its own dead.  The New Year has taken possession of the clock of time.  All hail the duties and possibilities of the coming twelve months!  ~Edward Payson Powell

Wish you all a very happy New Year 2013 and successful n positive days ahead!!

Live Positive Way - Rose

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully, and before it blossomed, he examined it.  He saw the bud that would soon blossom and also the thorns.  And he thought, how can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose and before it was ready to bloom, it died.

So it is with many people. Within every soul there is a rose.  The God-like qualities planted in us at birth grow amid the thorns of our faults.  Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.  We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us.  We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies.  We never realize our potential.

Some people do not see    the    rose within themselves; someone  else must show it to  them. One     of     the greatest  gifts  a person can possess is  to be  able to reach past the thorns and find the   rose  within others.  This is the characteristic of  love, to look at  a  person, and knowing is faults, recognize the   nobility  in his soul, and help him  realize  that he can  overcome his  faults. If we show him the rose, he will conquer the thorns.

Our  duty  in this world  is  to help others  by showing them  their  roses and    not   their thorns.  Only then can   we   achieve the love we should feel    for   each other;  only  then  can  we   bloom in our own garden.

Live Positive Way - Making a Difference

A man was walking down the beach at sunset. As, he walked along, he saw another man in the distance. He noticed this man kept leaning down, picking up something and throwing it out into the water, again and again. As, he approached even closer, he noticed that the man was picking up starfish that had been washed up on the beach. He was throwing them back into the water, one by one.

Puzzled, he approached the man and said, "Good Evening. I was wondering what you are doing."

"I'm throwing these starfish back into the ocean. You see, it's low tide and all these starfish have been washed up onto the shore. If, I don't throw them back into the ocean, they'll die up here from lack of oxygen."

"But, there must be thousands of starfish on this beach. You can't possible get to all of them. And, don't you realize this is probably happening on hundreds of beaches all up and down this coast. Can't you see that you can't possibly make a difference?"

The man bent down and picked up yet another starfish, and threw it back into the ocean. With a smile he replied, "Made a difference to that one !!!"

Just remember, no matter how small the deed it really does makes a difference.
Make a difference today.

Live Positive Way - Never Manipulate

Death came to a Man and said, “My friend today is your last day on the earth"

Man : But I am not ready..

Death : Well your name is the next in my list..

Man : Okay why don't you take a seat and I will get you something to eat before we go..

Death thought for a moment and said : All Right..

The Man gave Death some food with sleeping pills in it. Death finished eating and fell into a deep sleep..

The Man took the list & removed his name from top of the list and wrote it into the bottom of the list.

When Death woke up, he said to the Man : Because you have been so very nice to me, I will start from the BOTTOM of the list..

Moral of the story : Never Manipulate.

Live Positive Way - Success & Failure

Success is good because it  confirms things for us.

Success confirms our plans.
Success  confirms our decisions.
Success confirms our resources.
Success confirms  our strategies.
Success confirms our hunches.
Success confirms our  teamwork.
Success confirms our risks.
Success confirms a lot of  things!

And Failure's  role is to teach us.

Failure teaches us  that we need to change our plans.
Failure teaches us that we need to change  our decisions.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our  resources.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our  strategies.
Failure teaches us that we need to change our hunches.
Failure  teaches us that we need to change our teamwork.
Failure teaches us that we  need to change our risks.
Failure teaches us that we need to change a lot of  things!

Live Positive Way - Chill!

If time doesn't wait for you, don't worry! 
Just remove the battery from the clock and Enjoy life!

Expecting the world to treat u fairly because you are a good person 
is like expecting the lion not to attack you because you are a vegetarian. 

Don't walk as if you rule the world, 
walk as if you don't care who rules the world! 
That's called Attitude…! Keep on rocking!

Live Positive Way - Perception!

Forwarded mail...

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey.

Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.'

The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear...

Live Positive Way - All happens for good!

I remember posting this story long back.  But since its very interesting wish to share it again and again...

A king went hunting in the forest along with his minister, but after a hard day’s work he could not find any kill despite his best efforts, which made him very frustrated and in his anger, while wielding his sword, he accidentally cut his finger. As the minister helped him bandage the finger, he told the king, “Don't worry, whatever happens happens for the good.”  Already aggravated with the circumstances, the king said, “What nonsense are you talking. Can’t you see my finger is almost chopped off and I'm bleeding profusely, and you have the audacity to say that there is something good in it?” Out of sheer annoyance, he ordered his soldiers to throw the minister into a well. As he continued with his tour, he stopped to test the minister, and looked inside the well and very sarcastically remarked, “Whatever happens happens for good, stay there.”

Leaving the minister in the well the king wandered deep into the forest and soon realized he and his men were lost. To make matters worse, before the entourage could find a way out, the king was captured by some tribals in the forest. They were in a midst of a religious ritual which required a human sacrifice. As they did not recognize the king, they thought they had found their sacrifice to please the deity. It was all set and the King was about to be sacrificed, but even as they chanted their prayers, one of their priests noticed the missing finger on the king’s hand, and according to their tradition they could not sacrifice any person who is not complete. So, they decided to let him go and look for another person.

Shaken from the turn of events, the king thanked his luck and all of a sudden stopped to ponder about what his minister had said. He realized how right were his words - that whatever happens happens for a reason and it is good for you.  At that moment, he knew that had his finger not got cut off, his head surely would have been!! It indeed was a spate of good fortune.

He rushed back to his minister and immediately asked his ministers to take him out of the well. Though he praised his wisdom, he was still wondering at the minister’s words, and asked him, “It was good that my finger was cut as it saved my life, but what was good when I threw you into the well?’ In reply, the minister said that there was good in that too, because had he been accompanying the king, the tribal people would have killed him instead of the King, as he was physically perfect for their sacrifice.

This story gives ab insignt about how people forget to see any good in a moment of distress, but later on when that moment passes out  and when they get something better they realize the power of this philosophy.  It has happened in my personal experience too.  Whenever some critical situation arrises always remember "this too will pass...." and stay positive!

Live Positive Way - handling complaints

Complaining is a way of life for some people.  When this person also happens to be a close friend or family member, it can be frustrating and make us negative.  People who complain are generally people who have not developed a loving inner self nature and not compassionate with themselves.  Such people do that to gain attention from others and make themselves and surrounding people negative and unhappy.  To have a positive life we must know how to handle such people since there are a lot of annoying people who likes to complain about others for no reason. 

Why people complain?
They have a big ego and think they know it all.
They don't give importance or attention to the details others give.
They themselves imagine things which is not real most of the time and whine and complain.
They normally be judgemental.

How to deal with people who keeps complaining?
1. Give them a lot of empathy.  
2. Never let the person's complaints get into you. When you are sure you didn't do anything about what they say then its not your problem.
3. Don't react indifferent or sarcastic.  Do not add fuel to the discussion going on.
4. If they start an argument just give your ears to what all they say and stay calm and cool and keep your points softly in front of them.
5. Always remember that the one who is complaining has a problem and YOU are not the problem.
6. En-route them to http://www.justgriping.com/. On-line webpage for them to complain through out the day. 

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Good Morning!

A story....!

A woman baked chapatti (roti) for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra chapatti on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the chapatti. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and uttered the words:

“The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?” One day, exasperated, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the chapatti she prepared for him!

As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately, she threw the chapatti into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”

The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the chapatti on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him.. She prayed for his safe return.

That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so famished that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a morsel of food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole chapatti. As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!”

” As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned chapatti that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!

It was then that she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time. If you like this, share it with others and I bet so many lives would be touched.

Story!

What goes around comes around...!

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.

As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”

He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”

Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….

She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”

Author: Unknown

Siddharth Jayakumar... touching lives!

Bloggers kindly go through the below message from my friend, he wishes to share  something very good with everyone!!!

(posted with his permission)

Hi ,

Let me introduce myself as Siddharth GJ. My sincere apologies for clogging your inbox but I wanted to take a quick 5 minutes of yours to tell you about myself and my journey, which gives me immense pride to feel worth sharing with you. Should you google my name (Siddharth g j or Siddharth Jayakumar), you would find articles about me, which would talk about my journey in life. At the outset I would like to make it clear that this mail is not a request for help in any manner but just to acquaint you with myself.

Please take some time in going through attached presentation which takes you through my journey from being tagged as a “Mentally retarded guy” to being successful professional in the banking industry. Essentially it started with a jaundice attack 3 days after my birth leading to Cerebral Palsy. I joined a “Special school” at the age of 10 and had a chance to join a regular school for my 10th grade and then went to on to do B.com and Masters in Economics yet again in a regular institution. My academics were very good from any standpoint as I scored well above average throughout my academic career. Thereafter after a painful job hunt process I got my first break at then ABN Amro, now RBS and I am currently with IndusInd Bank Ltd.

Having seen that my journey was far from being as smooth as described in the presentation, the kind of turbulations, humiliation, disappointment, struggle I had to go through is far from the imagination of a regular child. The positive side of this is that it made me quite tough and resilient in life. My experiences thought me that the best way of tackling problems is to face them rather than running away. At present, I have been doing a lot of speeches/talk sharing my experiences and lessons I have learnt in my life. I am a regular speaker at TCS and have given motivational speeches in Tedx, Great Lakes Institute of Management, Scope and many more places…..I urge you to have a look at some of my videos by clicking the links below:

Dr. APJ Kalam Sir talking abt me !

http://youtu.be/vxkM3lw2OZc

My tedxchennai talk

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My great lakes talk

http://youtu.be/oA3aSKozsgw

TedxGateway talk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ikJcge_elno

The idea of writing to you was to acquaint you with my  life to demonstrate the challenges which a person like me has to undergo. Thanks to the support of my family and friends that I gathered the courage to take life this far I was wondering if you think its worth it for me to come over and give a talk to your folks, please do not hesitate to reach me at +91 9840238137 or reply to this mail as per your convenience.

Thanks a lot for your time to read this mail and I hope you will join me in my mission of spreading awareness and passion for life.

Look forward to getting in touch with you soon

Thanks!!

Regards,

Siddharth

My Contact no is +91 9840238137

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Beautiful people

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, 
known suffering, known struggle, known loss, 
and have found their way out of the depts.  
These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.  
Beautiful people do not just happen.  
~  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

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Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.

Norman Vincent Peale

Crave for a thing, you will get it. Renounce the craving, the object will follow you by itself.

Swami Sivananda

Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.

Thomas Jefferson

Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward.

Victor Kiam