Live Positive Way - All happens for good!

I remember posting this story long back.  But since its very interesting wish to share it again and again...

A king went hunting in the forest along with his minister, but after a hard day’s work he could not find any kill despite his best efforts, which made him very frustrated and in his anger, while wielding his sword, he accidentally cut his finger. As the minister helped him bandage the finger, he told the king, “Don't worry, whatever happens happens for the good.”  Already aggravated with the circumstances, the king said, “What nonsense are you talking. Can’t you see my finger is almost chopped off and I'm bleeding profusely, and you have the audacity to say that there is something good in it?” Out of sheer annoyance, he ordered his soldiers to throw the minister into a well. As he continued with his tour, he stopped to test the minister, and looked inside the well and very sarcastically remarked, “Whatever happens happens for good, stay there.”

Leaving the minister in the well the king wandered deep into the forest and soon realized he and his men were lost. To make matters worse, before the entourage could find a way out, the king was captured by some tribals in the forest. They were in a midst of a religious ritual which required a human sacrifice. As they did not recognize the king, they thought they had found their sacrifice to please the deity. It was all set and the King was about to be sacrificed, but even as they chanted their prayers, one of their priests noticed the missing finger on the king’s hand, and according to their tradition they could not sacrifice any person who is not complete. So, they decided to let him go and look for another person.

Shaken from the turn of events, the king thanked his luck and all of a sudden stopped to ponder about what his minister had said. He realized how right were his words - that whatever happens happens for a reason and it is good for you.  At that moment, he knew that had his finger not got cut off, his head surely would have been!! It indeed was a spate of good fortune.

He rushed back to his minister and immediately asked his ministers to take him out of the well. Though he praised his wisdom, he was still wondering at the minister’s words, and asked him, “It was good that my finger was cut as it saved my life, but what was good when I threw you into the well?’ In reply, the minister said that there was good in that too, because had he been accompanying the king, the tribal people would have killed him instead of the King, as he was physically perfect for their sacrifice.

This story gives ab insignt about how people forget to see any good in a moment of distress, but later on when that moment passes out  and when they get something better they realize the power of this philosophy.  It has happened in my personal experience too.  Whenever some critical situation arrises always remember "this too will pass...." and stay positive!

Live Positive Way - handling complaints

Complaining is a way of life for some people.  When this person also happens to be a close friend or family member, it can be frustrating and make us negative.  People who complain are generally people who have not developed a loving inner self nature and not compassionate with themselves.  Such people do that to gain attention from others and make themselves and surrounding people negative and unhappy.  To have a positive life we must know how to handle such people since there are a lot of annoying people who likes to complain about others for no reason. 

Why people complain?
They have a big ego and think they know it all.
They don't give importance or attention to the details others give.
They themselves imagine things which is not real most of the time and whine and complain.
They normally be judgemental.

How to deal with people who keeps complaining?
1. Give them a lot of empathy.  
2. Never let the person's complaints get into you. When you are sure you didn't do anything about what they say then its not your problem.
3. Don't react indifferent or sarcastic.  Do not add fuel to the discussion going on.
4. If they start an argument just give your ears to what all they say and stay calm and cool and keep your points softly in front of them.
5. Always remember that the one who is complaining has a problem and YOU are not the problem.
6. En-route them to http://www.justgriping.com/. On-line webpage for them to complain through out the day. 

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A story....!

A woman baked chapatti (roti) for members of her family and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra chapatti on the window sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunchback came and took away the chapatti. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and uttered the words:

“The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself… “Everyday this hunchback utters this jingle! What does he mean?” One day, exasperated, she decided to do away with him. “I shall get rid of this hunchback,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the chapatti she prepared for him!

As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately, she threw the chapatti into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window sill. As usual, the hunchback came, picked up the chapatti and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!”

The hunchback proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman. Every day, as the woman placed the chapatti on the window sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news of him.. She prayed for his safe return.

That evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so famished that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunchback passed by. I begged of him for a morsel of food, and he was kind enough to give me a whole chapatti. As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!”

” As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale. She leaned against the door for support. She remembered the poisoned chapatti that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life!

It was then that she realized the significance of the words: “The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” Do good and Don’t ever stop doing good, even if it is not appreciated at that time. If you like this, share it with others and I bet so many lives would be touched.

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What goes around comes around...!

One day a man saw an old lady, stranded on the side of the road, but even in the dim light of day, he could see she needed help. So he pulled up in front of her Mercedes and got out. His Pontiac was still sputtering when he approached her.

Even with the smile on his face, she was worried. No one had stopped to help for the last hour or so. Was he going to hurt her? He didn’t look safe; he looked poor and hungry. He could see that she was frightened, standing out there in the cold. He knew how she felt. It was those chills which only fear can put in you. He said, “I’m here to help you, ma’am. Why don’t you wait in the car where it’s warm? By the way, my name is Bryan Anderson.”

Well, all she had was a flat tire, but for an old lady, that was bad enough. Bryan crawled under the car looking for a place to put the jack, skinning his knuckles a time or two. Soon he was able to change the tire. But he had to get dirty and his hands hurt.

As he was tightening up the lug nuts, she rolled down the window and began to talk to him. She told him that she was from St. Louis and was only just passing through. She couldn’t thank him enough for coming to her aid.

Bryan just smiled as he closed her trunk. The lady asked how much she owed him. Any amount would have been all right with her. She already imagined all the awful things that could have happened had he not stopped. Bryan never thought twice about being paid. This was not a job to him. This was helping someone in need, and God knows there were plenty, who had given him a hand in the past. He had lived his whole life that way, and it never occurred to him to act any other way.

He told her that if she really wanted to pay him back, the next time she saw someone who needed help, she could give that person the assistance they needed, and Bryan added, “And think of me.”

He waited until she started her car and drove off. It had been a cold and depressing day, but he felt good as he headed for home, disappearing into the twilight.

A few miles down the road the lady saw a small cafe. She went in to grab a bite to eat, and take the chill off before she made the last leg of her trip home. It was a dingy looking restaurant. Outside were two old gas pumps. The whole scene was unfamiliar to her. The waitress came over and brought a clean towel to wipe her wet hair. She had a sweet smile, one that even being on her feet for the whole day couldn’t erase. The lady noticed the waitress was nearly eight months pregnant, but she never let the strain and aches change her attitude. The old lady wondered how someone who had so little could be so giving to a stranger. Then she remembered Bryan.

After the lady finished her meal, she paid with a hundred dollar bill. The waitress quickly went to get change for her hundred dollar bill, but the old lady had slipped right out the door. She was gone by the time the waitress came back. The waitress wondered where the lady could be. Then she noticed something written on the napkin.

There were tears in her eyes when she read what the lady wrote: “You don’t owe me anything. I have been there too. Somebody once helped me out, the way I’m helping you. If you really want to pay me back, here is what you do: Do not let this chain of love end with you.”

Under the napkin were four more $100 bills.

Well, there were tables to clear, sugar bowls to fill, and people to serve, but the waitress made it through another day. That night when she got home from work and climbed into bed, she was thinking about the money and what the lady had written. How could the lady have known how much she and her husband needed it? With the baby due next month, it was going to be hard….

She knew how worried her husband was, and as he lay sleeping next to her, she gave him a soft kiss and whispered soft and low, “Everything’s going to be all right. I love you, Bryan Anderson.”

There is an old saying “What goes around comes around.”

Author: Unknown

Siddharth Jayakumar... touching lives!

Bloggers kindly go through the below message from my friend, he wishes to share  something very good with everyone!!!

(posted with his permission)

Hi ,

Let me introduce myself as Siddharth GJ. My sincere apologies for clogging your inbox but I wanted to take a quick 5 minutes of yours to tell you about myself and my journey, which gives me immense pride to feel worth sharing with you. Should you google my name (Siddharth g j or Siddharth Jayakumar), you would find articles about me, which would talk about my journey in life. At the outset I would like to make it clear that this mail is not a request for help in any manner but just to acquaint you with myself.

Please take some time in going through attached presentation which takes you through my journey from being tagged as a “Mentally retarded guy” to being successful professional in the banking industry. Essentially it started with a jaundice attack 3 days after my birth leading to Cerebral Palsy. I joined a “Special school” at the age of 10 and had a chance to join a regular school for my 10th grade and then went to on to do B.com and Masters in Economics yet again in a regular institution. My academics were very good from any standpoint as I scored well above average throughout my academic career. Thereafter after a painful job hunt process I got my first break at then ABN Amro, now RBS and I am currently with IndusInd Bank Ltd.

Having seen that my journey was far from being as smooth as described in the presentation, the kind of turbulations, humiliation, disappointment, struggle I had to go through is far from the imagination of a regular child. The positive side of this is that it made me quite tough and resilient in life. My experiences thought me that the best way of tackling problems is to face them rather than running away. At present, I have been doing a lot of speeches/talk sharing my experiences and lessons I have learnt in my life. I am a regular speaker at TCS and have given motivational speeches in Tedx, Great Lakes Institute of Management, Scope and many more places…..I urge you to have a look at some of my videos by clicking the links below:

Dr. APJ Kalam Sir talking abt me !

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My tedxchennai talk

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My great lakes talk

http://youtu.be/oA3aSKozsgw

TedxGateway talk

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The idea of writing to you was to acquaint you with my  life to demonstrate the challenges which a person like me has to undergo. Thanks to the support of my family and friends that I gathered the courage to take life this far I was wondering if you think its worth it for me to come over and give a talk to your folks, please do not hesitate to reach me at +91 9840238137 or reply to this mail as per your convenience.

Thanks a lot for your time to read this mail and I hope you will join me in my mission of spreading awareness and passion for life.

Look forward to getting in touch with you soon

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My Contact no is +91 9840238137

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Beautiful people

The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, 
known suffering, known struggle, known loss, 
and have found their way out of the depts.  
These people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern.  
Beautiful people do not just happen.  
~  Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

Have a great day!

Always continue the climb. It is possible for you to do whatever you choose, if you first get to know who you are and are willing to work with a power that is greater than ourselves to do it.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

Believe in yourself! Have faith in your abilities! Without a humble but reasonable confidence in your own powers you cannot be successful or happy.

Norman Vincent Peale

Crave for a thing, you will get it. Renounce the craving, the object will follow you by itself.

Swami Sivananda

Do you want to know who you are? Don't ask. Act! Action will delineate and define you.

Thomas Jefferson

Even if you fall on your face, you're still moving forward.

Victor Kiam

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Story time..!

The little girl lived in a small, very simple, poor house on a hill and as she grew she would play in the small garden and as she grew she was able to see over the garden fence and across the valley to a wonderful house high on the hill – and this house had golden windows, so golden and shining that the little girl would dream of how magic it would be to grow up and live in a house with golden windows instead of an ordinary house like hers.

And although she loved her parents and her family, she yearned to live in such a golden house and dreamed all day about how wonderful and exciting it must feel to live there.

When she got to an age where she gained enough skill and sensibility to go outside her garden fence, she asked her mother is she could go for a bike ride outside the gate and down the lane. After pleading with her, her mother finally allowed her to go, insisting that she kept close to the house and didn’t wander too far. The day was beautiful and the little girl knew exactly where she was heading! Down the lane and across the valley, she rode her bike until she got to the gate of the golden house across on the other hill.

As she dismounted her bike and lent it against the gate post, she focused on the path that lead to the house and then on the house itself…and was so disappointed as she realized all the windows were plain and rather dirty, reflecting nothing other than the sad neglect of the house that stood derelict.

So sad she didn’t go any further and turned, heart broken as she remounted her bike … As she glanced up she saw a sight to amaze her…there across the way on her side of the valley was a little house and its windows glistened golden …as the sun shone on her little home.

She realized that she had been living in her golden house and all the love and care she found there was what made her home the ‘golden house’. Everything she dreamed was right there in front of her nose!

Good morning..!

Opportunity does not knock, it presents itself when you beat down the door.

Kyle Chandler

Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines.

Robert H. Schuller

Quality is not an act, it is a habit.

Aristotle

Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.

Tony Robbins

The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.

Epictetus

Teachings of Buddha!

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.

Better than a thousand hollow words, is one word that brings peace.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

In the sky, there is no distinction of east and west; people create distinctions out of their own minds and then believe them to be true.

It is a man's own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways.

Quotes of Albert Einstein..!

A person who never made a mistake never tried anything new.
A man should look for what is, and not for what he thinks should be.
All that is valuable in human society depends upon the opportunity for development accorded the individual.
All these primary impulses, not easily described in words, are the springs of man's actions.
A perfection of means, and confusion of aims, seems to be our main problem.

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The Elephant Rope..!

As a man was passing the elephants, he suddenly stopped, confused by the fact that these huge creatures were being held by only a small rope tied to their front leg. No chains, no cages. It was obvious that the elephants could, at anytime, break away from their bonds but for some reason, they did not.

He saw a trainer nearby and asked why these animals just stood there and made no attempt to get away. “Well,” trainer said, “when they are very young and much smaller we use the same size rope to tie them and, at that age, it’s enough to hold them. As they grow up, they are conditioned to believe they cannot break away. They believe the rope can still hold them, so they never try to break free.”

The man was amazed. These animals could at any time break free from their bonds but because they believed they couldn’t, they were stuck right where they were.

Like the elephants, how many of us go through life hanging onto a belief that we cannot do something, simply because we failed at it once before?

Failure is part of learning; we should never give up the struggle in life.

Quotable quotes.....!

Follow your dreams, work hard, practice and persevere. Make sure you eat a variety of foods, get plenty of exercise and maintain a healthy lifestyle.
Sasha Cohen

If you want to conquer fear, don't sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy.
Dale Carnegie

Know or listen to those who know.
Baltasar Gracian

Learning is the beginning of wealth. Learning is the beginning of health. Learning is the beginning of spirituality. Searching and learning is where the miracle process all begins.
Jim Rohn

No matter how many goals you have achieved, you must set your sights on a higher one.
Jessica Savitch

Think!!!!

Nelson Mandela Quotes..!

What counts in life is not the mere fact that we have lived. It is what difference we have made to the lives of others that will determine the significance of the life we lead.

Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.

If you talk to a man in a language he understands, that goes to his head. If you talk to him in his language, that goes to his heart.

After climbing a great hill, one only finds that there are many more hills to climb.

It is better to lead from behind and to put others in front, especially when you celebrate victory when nice things occur. You take the front line when there is danger. Then people will appreciate your leadership.

Positive quote....!