Well… while reading the book review of “When Your Best Isn’t Good Enough by Dr. Kevin Leman” I came across the below article regarding dealing with your child. Dear Mom’s and Dad’s out there…I think you will like this.
This book enables you to accept your shortcomings and value your talents and gifts. It also explains why the lifestyle you developed as a child determines your degree of success or failure and how, regardless of the past, you can develop a healthy lifestyle today.
How you deal with your child’s hurts and failures has a great bearing on whether or not he will become a discouraged and defeated adult. Here’s how to go about it:
1. Listen – to what your child is saying, and more importantly, what he is feeling.
2. Respond to your child’s feelings. Let him know you’ve heard him and you understand why he feels the way he does.
3. Touch. Never be afraid to reach out and touch your child. Touching is an important way to communicate your love and care for him.
4. Always look for alternatives. Ask him if there is anything else he would like to do. If not, suggest a few things.
5. Give your child a choice. After examining all the alternatives, let him make the choice as to what he wants to do.
6. Never accept excuses. If you do that, you’re encouraging your child to keep the blame fixed on someone else.
7. See your child’s mistakes not as defeats or frustrations but as building blocks.
8. Encourage commitment. Don’t take your child’s problems upon your shoulders and solve them for him.
9. Be ready to evaluate the problem. Always be ready to give your support and encouragement.
I came across this in some web page and thought of sharing it with all my friends. Keep smiling and stay happy..!
Smiling is infectious, You catch it like the flu.
When someone smiled at me today, I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner, and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realized, I'd passed it to him.
I thought about that smile, then I realized its worth.
A single smile just like mine, could travel the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin, don't leave it undetected.
Let's start an epidemic quick, and get the world infected!
Hope we all will be familiar about this, still want to post this....Have a great day!
There are only two things in life to worry about:
Whether you are wellor whether you are sick.
If you are well, then there is nothing to worry about.
But if you are sick, there are only two things to worry about:
Whether you are going to get well or whether you are going to die.
If you get well, then there is nothing to worry about.
But if you die, there are only two things to worry about:
Whether you are going to go to heaven or whether you are going to go to hell.
If you go to heaven, then you have nothing to worry about.
But if you go to hell, you'll be so busy shaking hands with all your friends,
that you won't have time to worry! So, Why Worry?
Bill Gates recently gave a speech at a High School about 11 things they did not and will not learn in school He talks about how feel-good, politically correct teachings created a generation of kids with no concept of reality and how this concept set them up for failure in the real world.
Rule 1
: Life is not fair - get used to it!
Rule 2
: The world won't care about your self-esteem. The world will expect you to accomplish something BEFORE you feel good about yourself.
Rule 3
: You will NOT make $60,000 a year right out of high school. You won't be a vice-president with a car phone until you earn both.
Rule 4
: If you think your teacher is tough, wait till you get a boss.
Rule 5
: Flipping burgers is not beneath your dignity. Your Grandparents had a different word for burger flipping: they called it opportunity.
Rule 6
: If you mess up, it's not your parents' fault, so don't whine about your mistakes, learn from them.
Rule 7
: Before you were born, your parents weren't as boring as they are now. They got that way from paying your bills, cleaning your clothes and listening to you talk about how cool you thought you were. So before you save the rain forest from the parasites of your parent's generation, try delousing the closet in your own room.
Rule 8
: Your school may have done away with winners and losers, but life HAS NOT. In some schools, they have abolished failing grades and they'll give you as MANY TIMES as you want to get the right answer. This doesn't bear the slightest resemblance to ANYTHING in real life.
Rule 9
: Life is not divided into semesters. You don't get summers off and very few employers are interested in helping you FIND YOURSELF. Do that on your own time.
Rule 10
: Television is NOT real life. In real life people actually have to leave the coffee shop and go to jobs.
Rule 11
: Be nice to nerds. Chances are you'll end up working for one.
Once upon a time, there was a farmer in the central region of China. He didn't have a lot of money and, instead of a tractor, he used an old horse to plow his field. One afternoon, while working in the field, the horse dropped dead. Everyone in the village said, "Oh, what a horrible thing to happen." The farmer said simply, "We'll see."
He was so at peace and so calm, that everyone in the village got together and, admiring his attitude, gave him a new horse as a gift. Everyone's reaction now was, "What a lucky man." And the farmer said, "We'll see." A couple days later, the new horse jumped a fence and ran away. Everyone in the village shook their heads and said, "What a poor fellow!" The farmer smiled and said, "We'll see."
Eventually, the horse found his way home, and everyone again said, "What a fortunate man." The farmer said, "We'll see." Later in the year, the farmer's young boy went out riding on the horse and fell and broke his leg. Everyone in the village said, "What a shame for the poor boy." The farmer said, "We'll see."
Two days later, the army came into the village to draft new recruits. When they saw that the farmer's son had a broken leg, they decided not to recruit him. Everyone said, "What a fortunate young man." The farmer smiled again - and said "We'll see."
Moral of the story:
There's no use in overreacting to the events and circumstances of our everyday lives. Many times what looks like a setback, may actually be a gift in disguise. And when our hearts are in the right place, all events and circumstances are gifts that we can learn valuable lessons from.
As Fra Giovanni once said: "Everything we call a trial, a sorrow, or a duty, believe me... The gift is there and the wonder of an overshadowing presence."
Avoid negative sources, people, places, things & habits.
Believe in yourself
Consider things from every angle.
Don't give up and don't give in.
Enjoy life today, yesterday is gone, tomorrow may never come.
Family and friends are hidden treasures; enjoy their riches.
Give more than you planned to.
Hang on to your dreams.
Ignore those who try to discourage you.
Just do it.
Keep trying no matter how hard it seems, it will get easier.
Love yourself first and most.
Make it happen.
Never lie, cheat or steal, always strike a fair deal.
Open your eyes and see things as they really are.
Practice makes perfect.
Quitters never win and winners never quit.
Read, study and learn about everything important in your life.
Stop procrastinating.
Take control of your own destiny.
Understand yourself in order to better understand others.
Visualize it.
Want it more than anything.
Xcellerate your efforts.
You are unique of all God's creations, nothing can replace YOU.
Zero in on your target and go for it!
One day I decided to quit. I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality. I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God."God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?"
His answer surprised me. "Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?""Yes", I replied. "When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew morevibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on thebamboo. In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would notquit. In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. I would notquit.
Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant. But just 6months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong andgave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle. "He said to me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?""I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you."
"Don't compare yourself to others." He said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful." "Your time will come", God said to me. "You will rise high""How high should I rise?" I asked. "How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return." As high as it can?" I questioned."Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can." I left the forest to bring back this story. I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you.
MY INDIA.....THE BEST....
French scholar Romain Rolland said: If there is one place on the face of earth where all the dreams of living men have found a home from the very earliest days when man began the dream of existence, it is India.
Hu Shih, former Ambassador of China to USA said: India conquered And dominated China culturally for 20 centuries without ever having to send a single soldier across her border.
Happy Independence Day 2008…!
A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.
Sometimes we Spend time in asking who is responsible or whom to Blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the People we know!
Take off all your envy, jealousy, anger, selfishness, and fears!
And you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think!
I certainly thought this was enlightening. beyond our sun ... It's a big universe.
Antares is the 15th brightest star in the sky. It is more than 1000 light years away. 
= Try to work for someone who'll challenge your powers. You'll learn more in a year than 4 years of college.Wish we could all go back to our childhood days....
These are so cute and I am sure you will chuckle!!
A little girl was talking to her teacher about whales. The teacher said it was physically impossible for a whale to swallow a human because even though it was a very large mammal its throat was very small. The little girl stated that Jonah was swallowed by awhale. Irritated, the teacher reiterated that a whale could not swallow a human; it was physically impossible. The little girl said, "When I get to heaven I will ask Jonah". The teacher asked, "What if Jonah went to hell?" The little girl replied, "Then you ask him".
A Kindergarten teacher was observing her classroom of children while they were drawing. She would occasionally walk around to see each child's work. As she got to one little girl who was working diligently, she asked what the drawing was. The girl replied, "I'm drawing God." The teacher paused and said, "But no one knows what God looks like." Without missing a beat, or looking up from her drawing, the girl replied, "They will in a minute."
One day a little girl was sitting and watching her mother do the dishes at the kitchen sink. She suddenly noticed that her mother had several strands of white hair sticking out in contrast on her brunette head. She looked at her mother and inquisitively asked, "Why are some of your hairs white, Mom?" Her mother replied, "Well, every time that you do something wrong and make me cry or unhappy, one of my hairs turns white." The little girl thought about this revelation for a while and then said, "Momma, how come ALL of grandma's hairs are white?"
The children were lined up in the cafeteria of a Catholic elementary school for lunch. At the head of the table was a large pile of apples. The nun made a note, and posted on the apple tray: "Take only ONE. God is watching." Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end of the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies. A child had written a note, "Take all you want. God is watching the apples.
Kindly pass on these valuable information to your friends and relatives......for further information click on the eye image under side title "Donate Life by Donating the Eyes!" in this blog page. Let's make a difference.... Cheers....!
Everything happens for a reason. Nothing happens by chance or means of luck. Illness, love, lost moments are the tests of life, to strengthen the soul.
Life would be dull and pointless if it would be a smoothly paved road.
If someone hurts you, betrays you or breaks your heart, forgive them because they have helped you to learn about trust and being cautious to whom you open your heart.
If someone loves you, love them back unconditionally, because they are teaching you to love and open your heart and eyes to little things.
Make every day count.
Appreciate everything that you possibly can, for you may never experience it again.
Hi friends, Rekha has tagged me. Thank you Rekha for the opportunity to be a part of this.
So, here are the rules:
1. List these rules on your blog.
2. Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog.
3. Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blogs.
7 facts about Suganthi Paramesh of Live In a Positive Way:
1. Work: I could call myself a Banker and Executive but I find it's easier to just say Banker…I love my work…! Love being busy always and basically I am a work alcoholic.
2. Education: Education = Knowledge. According to me, education is one’s knowledge to learn or knew things in their own way…but since our society rate it according to our study grades… I will let you know that I have my Masters degree in Public Administration and have done my Graduation in Commerce.
3. Friendship: A relationship to be treasured and cherished. It is a unique attachment between two people who share things to each other. I like to have healthy and meaningful friendships and in this case I am very much blessed and have few friends who are really wonderful people to be with…!
4. Relationship: You didn’t explain about this…? Which relationship does it mean? I think every relationship has its own importance… I have always been good in this, I suppose… I am a dutiful daughter, good sister, caring friend, loving wife…….and now a wonderful mother…! I always thank god for being my side in receiving love and trust from my near and dear ones…!
5. WWW: Got introduced to it in the year 1998…going on till now… I love surfing net and I feel this is the greatest invention…can view the whole world in one seat…!
6. Fitness: Ha Ha…eating is the toughest thing for me…so poor eating habits and very little, no exercises, no fitness classes… but still fit…!
7. Dreams: My blog gives you my views about this…… I am a very big dreamer…so cannot list out everything since web itself doesn’t have that facility to hold that much…and I feel healthy and alive since I keep dreaming… I wish to attain many things in my life…so I keep dreaming always, always and always….!
I would like to tag these 7 people, since I wish to know about them :-
http://aku007theblogger.blogspot.com/, http://mcakenyon.blogspot.com/, http://www.theblogpresher.com/, http://athoughtfulday.blogspot.com/, http://www.momhoodmoments.com/, http://www.topformsecrets.com/ and http://vimal-dreams.blogspot.com/
I will be very happy if you pass on this tag. Let’s make the Blogosphere a better place.
In today’s post I wish to share some points I came through the book “The Magic of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz”….!
‘Use these tools and think creatively :-
1. Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution. Eliminate “impossible,” “won’t work,” “can’t do,” “no use trying” from your thinking and speaking vocabularies.
2. Don’t let tradition paralyze your mind. Be receptive to new ideas. Be experimental. Try new approaches. Be progressive in everything you do.
3. Ask yourself daily, “How can I do better?” There is no limit to self-improvement. When you ask yourself, “How can I do better?” sound answers will appear. Try it and see.
4. Ask yourself, “How can I do more?” Capacity is a state of mind. Asking yourself this question puts your mind to work to find intelligent short-cuts. The success combination in business is: Do what you do better (improve the quality of your output), and do more of what you do (increase the quantity of your output.)
5. Practice asking and listening. Ask and listen and you’ll obtain raw material for reaching sound decisions. Remember: Big people monopolize the listening; small people monopolize the talking.
6. Stretch your mind. Get stimulated. Associate with people who can help you to think of new ideas, new ways of doing things. Mix with people of different occupational and social interests.’
I believe in the saying that if we think big we end up with big things…sky is the limit if we believe in ourselves…Keep dreaming and keep achieving….!
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