Live Positive Way - Find Your Balance

Live Positive Way - Find Your Balance

"Every time you decide, you shift.

Choose who you want to be, and you will shift into that version of yourself.

You are always being led to your heart's core.

Reclaim your awareness. Be here now" (Anonymous).

- When I read this quote, I had an immediate profound connection with these lines. This is what today's blog is all about.

I am extremely grateful to my friends/blog-walkers who kept inquiring me about my well being, and was curious to know what happened to me since there was no posts from me for quite sometime and why I am not writing these days. My heartfelt gratitude to each one of you who is reading this right now. Thank you so much for believing in my words and for being there for me. Also, my apologies for the delay. Here we go!

'Positive Thoughts blogger' isn't a 'Superwoman', I too go through tough times in my life. I can be a motivator or an inspiration to a few, but I too have my ebb of life. I too get ignored by some close ones...have stressful days....and drift into deep emotional insecurity. At times I too long for validation of my thoughts, my feelings and my existence. Such periods existed for a couple of months now, but I don't lose myself entirely due to 3 things that I follow every day in my life.

Before getting into the blog, I must say that the recent festival time was awesome, which helped me rejuvenate and thanks to one of my close friends, Ms. Laxmi who said, 'Sugan am not able to find time for myself. Getting completely immersed in family, kids & work. How are you managing? Write about that'. This engaged me to pen down my thoughts here.

The three things that I mentioned earlier are tied up to two people. For two significant people I keep myself going. Come on! Don't start thinking about family, friends, or any special ones here... Nah! It's for the one who brought me into existence — my GOD, and the one who exists because of him — ME. Yes, sounds interesting right?

'My God and Me'.

Often people prioritize everything for everyone, but overlook these two significant people and put everyone and everything above them. And in the routine race we forget these two significant people. The magic happens only when we realise that even though we are struck in the mundane affairs, we have just this life for ourselves since the idea of rebirth too still is hypothetical, so...

No. 1 - God gives us 24 long hours a day. We meticulously formulate a time table in our mind for everything, but we really forget him. I have made my timetable, in which, daily I allocate an uninterrupted 30 minutes just to pay my gratitude to him. I do my slokha chantings in that time with absolute dedication. No phones in hand or will enable DND (DoNotDisturb mode), no house hold chores and I will strictly not entertain any external activities that time. I choose the time and my people respect and appreciate my thoughts and never disturb me. This undoubtedly helps me to hold on to my faith and the trust I have on my God Krishna. Each and every time when I face a challenge, my mind will immediately throw light on the fact that he is there for me to fix anything and it gives me reassurance.

No. 2 - Another 30 minutes I spend for myself. People close to me know that very well. I am my own admirer and my own lover. Some may mistake 'self-love' for being 'self-centered', but I think there is a subtle difference between them. I enjoy the bliss of solitude and self-love. Whatever be the issues that surround me, I surely have this 'Me Time'. Are you wondering what I will be doing at that alone time? A sample is readily available here, the blog post which I am drafting in my journal now, penning down my thoughts for all of us. Sometimes engrossed in a physical book copy in hand or reading a PDF in mobile. Some days I will be singing in my room with my Mike on as if a stage is set for me with millions off the dais cheering and listening to me. Sometimes I get on my room floor and dance bindaas. I give a damn to anyone who thinks I am insane or childish. Some days I simply sit and reflect on me...what am I going to do to make this present 'me' into a better 'me'. At times I will be watching my childhood heartthrob, Actor Akshay Kumar's songs and movies. I enjoy his screen presence which gives me a psychological satisfaction. (thanks to my super supportive husband who too eventually became his fan).You can include as many things as you want to, to this never ending list. What I believe is the fact that if I keep the 'child in me' happy I can rediscover the peace in me to tackle my stress.

No. 3 - Again, it's about me, but a little concerned about the people who need me in their life. I have to stay fit to keep them happy. For that and for my own benefits I complete my regular exercises. I at times club this with my No.2. For example; walking - with my earphones and MP3 on listening to my favourite songs. Do Zumba - since it is a fitness dance! Not exaggerating, but you bet me I will not hit my bed until and unless I finish the step count for walking I have set for myself or my plank counts, that's the commitment I have given to my own self which I can never ever break.

You may think it is possible for me and not for you, but trust me, we all are good with time management, it is only our conviction which should be strong enough to support us. These things I slowly cultivated in me for many years and these alone, I believe, are helping me cope up with my tough times. So far I have shared what I do to keep myself positive in my tough times and it is up to you, my dear blog walkers, to adapt or to skip these techniques.

In the process of becoming a Superwoman :)

Thanks again! Keep visiting my webpage!

Stay positive! 

- Suganthi Sankaran 

Educational Therapist, Positive Blogger & Counselor