Live Positive Way - That's how life goes....
At times, a 'casual conversation' can turn out to be a powerful tool that make us stay "profoundly positive". One such conversation that I had with my kid made me reevaluate how wonderful this life is and how lucky we are to be living it.
I believe it would be completely unfair to keep a good thought to myself, so let's get started.
Recently, one fine morning, when my daughter and I were on our way to school, we had the following conversation:
"Amma, I always wanted to ask you this. I have seen you in many situations, but you always stay naughty (her way of expressing my jovial nature) and have so much fun. You get excited on even small things and carry a positive outlook.
How is it possible? Even on those instances when people accuse you of doing something wrong, when they speak negatively about you behind your back, and even after you learn about it, you barely react? How could you handle things that way? Even if my classmate casually passes remarks about me, I become disturbed. When you say, "Just chill, baby", how do you deal with those situations yourself"?
It came as a sweet surprise to me, because, for me, she was a carefree youngster yet to comprehend the 'hard questions' of life, I never imagined my daughter would ask such a significant question. Perhaps that is what life is all about and how children grow so fast. They suddenly make us feel amused.
Nevertheless, I never miss even the smallest opportunity to help my child understand "life with all its shades" and cultivate a positive approach, so my reply was as follows:
"Darling, there are two principles that I live by that enable me to be the person I am today. The first is, I never-ever take other people's opinions of me seriously. There were various occasions when people falsely accused me, called me names, or tried to destroy my peace, but I never surrendered to it. Since I was a young child, whenever I look at the mirror....into my own eyes, I have told myself that I am the greatest, the most beautiful, the smartest, and the one who will succeed against all odds. I always believed in those words so strongly and never accepted whatever others said. More than anything else, I had faith in myself. Always! Even now! I believe in myself, so it doesn't matter what others say or think about me.
If someone says something, it's their opinion and their perspective, not mine, so I don't bother about it. At the end of the day, only those who deserve our presence in their lives will understand and accept us. Let others enjoy "their lives", while I lead mine peacefully.
The second principle that I belive in is that, despite having many dreams and aspirations I've never tried to bargain with my Lord Krishna. I simply carry my thoughts forth without making any specific requests to Him and I have faith that whatever He decides will be the 'best choice' for me. I trust him completely and give my 100%, in whichever zone he places me. If he takes me to a new place, I get accustomed to it. If he gives me a job, I will give my honest 100% to it. If he sends someone into my life to befriend or help them, I will give my 100% effort to strengthen that relationship. Always hold on to your relationship with God because it is crucial for knowing who you are and what you want out of this life.
Thus, I find that two things keep me content, they are believing in myself more than what other people think of me and trusting God more than what 'I think' is good for me (at a particular point in time). Neither I try to please anyone to prove myself, nor I am after something that can spoil my inner peace.
There was a long silence between us, since we both were engrossed in our fleeting thoughts after the discussion. We reached the school gate, where we parted greeting each other, "Jai Shri Krishna".
- Suganthi Sankaran
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