Positive and negative

We live in a world surrounded by both positive and negative people and atmosphere. Just reading the news or having a conversation with most people you can get a lot of negate energy transmitted. Some people always comment on negative way. This isn’t always a bad thing, either, since you can learn how not to use such negative comments if you know about it yourself. Discontentment and negativity can often lead to more action than just pretending you feel wonderful when you don’t. But the actual problem occurs when we get carried away with so much negativity that it will bring down our energy level. Only someone with incredibly high emotional energy reserves can take the onslaught of negativity in our society and still have the positive focus to take action.

Positivity and optimism motivate and inspire. In other words, positivity creates energy which get transmitted to positive activity and success. Spend some time of your day to get yourself excited, enthusiastic and optimistic by reading good books or listening to motivation tapes etc. which can give you a huge boost in your energy. I used to read atleast two pages a from personal development. You can even listen to some good audio tapes the positivity of their speeches can give you some of the emotional energy that the world has drained from you.

Hence from today just start reading or listening....stay boosted and motivated...

Story time

Is Man Free by Osho
A man comes to a master to ask how much man is independent, free. Is he totally free, or is there a limitation? Is there something like fate, kismet, destiny, a God who makes a limitation beyond which you cannot be free?

The mystic answered in his own way - not logically but existentially. He said, "Stand up."The man must have felt this was a stupid kind of answer, "I am asking a simple question and he is asking me to stand up." But he said, "Let us see what happens."

He stood. And the mystic said, "Now, raise one of your legs up."The man, by this time must have been thinking he had come to a mad man; what has this to do with freedom, independence? But now that he has come... and there must have been a crowd of disciples, and the mystic was so respected; not to follow him would be disrespectful, and there was no harm. So he lifted one of his legs from the earth, so one foot was in the air and he was standing on one foot.

And then the master said, "That's perfectly good. Just one thing more. Now take the other foot up also.""That is impossible!" the man said, "You are asking something impossible. I have taken my right foot up. Now I cannot take my left foot up."

The master said, "But you were free. In the beginning you could have taken the left foot up. There was no binding order. You were completely free to choose whether to take the left foot up or the right foot up. I had not said anything about it; you just decided. You took the right foot up.In your very decision, you made it impossible for the left foot to be lifted up. Don't bother about fate, kismet, God. Just think of simple things."

A good thought

No one can arrive from beingtalented alone.

God gives talent;work transforms talent intogenius.-Anna Pavlova

Book Review

Thinkertoys: A Handbook of Creative-Thinking Techniques (2nd Edition)
by Michael Michalko

Editorial Review
THINKERTOYS will teach you how to generate new ideas for businesses, markets, sales techniques, and products and product extensions. Packed with fun and practical tools and exercises, it outlines 30 practical linear and intuitive techniques that can be used by individuals or groups to tackle and solve business problems in fresh, creative ways.
An updated edition of the best-selling business creativity book, with more than 30 brainstorming techniques and hundreds of creative-thinking tips and tricks. Revision includes new techniques, examples, and sections on group brainstorming and endgames.

Secret Coin

During a crucial battle, Shivaji, the great Indian King decided to attack even though his army was bit uncertain. He was confident they would win, but his men were filled with doubt. On the way to the battle, they stopped at the temple.

After praying with the men, king Shivaji took out a coin and said, I shall now toss this coin. If it is heads, we shall win. If it is tails we shall lose. Destiny will now reveal itself. He threw the coin into the air and all watched intently as it landed. It was heads. The soldiers were so overjoyed and filled with confidence that they vigorously attacked the enemy and were victorious.

After the battle a soldier remarked to the Shivaji, "No one can change destiny""Absolutely", Shivaji replied and showed him the coin, which had heads on both sides. King said, "Its true, we can't change the destiny or fortune, but we can change the coin.

Coin is the way we think and act. To take hard decisions you must be courageous, to be courageous you must be confident, to be confident you must think and act in right way Confidence is not ego or self importance.Confidence in yourself is a vital necessity if you want to make an impact in this lifetime.

Learn New Things Every Day

I read this somewhere, wish to share with you all

The mental aspect of our energy will determine how effectively we can use the physical capacity of energy. A commitment to learning new things every day is one of the best ways to keep your mental energies sharp. Although there is inherent value in the added knowledge gained from learning, the activity of learning itself can be an excellent way to improve your mental energies.

If you don’t already read at least one non-fiction book a month, make that your goal. I personally read anywhere from 1-2 books a week, almost always non-fiction. Although fiction can be a great way to stimulate the imagination, there are many ways you can do that, but unfortunately the mental learning gained from non-fiction books doesn’t have as many alternatives.

Learning doesn’t even have to be directed towards a specific purpose. Even if you don’t have to learn anything new to maintain the point you are in your life right now, pick up something you find interesting and learn about it anyways. Many people never pick up another book after they leave high-school. Learning must be a lifelong habit, not just a chore to get a degree.

Perfection

Practice does not make perfect.

Only perfect practice makes perfect.--Vince Lombardi

Water and its benefit

I have mentioned this earlier in a post about drinking plenty of water and its benefits. Now would like to share this quote here, which is little different :
Since water does not have any calories, it acts as an ideal *filler* material in your stomach and gives you a sense of “I am full” - which in turn decreases your appetite. This works best for people who are already over-weight and are controlling their appetite in order to lose weight.

Isn't perspective a wonderful thing?

One day, the father of a very wealthy family took his son on a trip to the country with the express purpose of showing him how poor people live. They spent a couple of days and nights on the farm of what would be considered a very poor family.

On their return from their trip, the father asked his son, 'How was thetrip?' 'It was great, Dad.' 'Did you see how poor people live?' the father asked. 'Oh yeah,' said the son. 'So, tell me, what did you learn from the trip?' asked the father

The son answered: 'I saw that we have one dog and they had four. We have a pool that reaches to the middle of our garden and they have a creek that has no end. We have imported lanterns in our garden and they have the stars at night.

Our patio reaches to the front yard and they have the whole horizon. We have a small piece of land to live on and they have fields that go beyond our sight. We have servants who serve us, but they serve others. We buy our food, but they grow theirs. We have walls around our property to protect us, they have friends to protect them.' The boy's father was speechless. Then his son added, 'Thanks Dad for showing me how poor we are.'

Isn't perspective a wonderful thing? Makes you wonder what would happen if we all gave thanks for everything we have, instead of worrying about what we don't have. Appreciate every single thing you have, especially your friends!

You can do it

"Don't be afraid of the space between your dreams and reality.

If you can dream it, you can make it so." - Belva Davis

Sand and Stone

A story tells that two friends were walking through the desert. During some point of the journey they had an argument, and one friend slapped the other one in the face. The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand:

TODAY MY BEST FRIENDSLAPPED ME IN THE FACE.

They kept on walking until they found an oasis,where they decided to take a bath. The one whohad been slapped got stuck in the mire and started drowning, but the friend saved him. After he recovered from the near drowning,he wrote on a stone:

TODAY MY BEST FRIEND SAVED MY LIFE .

The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend asked him, "After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?" The other friend replied "When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.

"LEARN TO WRITE YOUR HURTS IN THE SAND AND TO CARVE YOUR BENEFITS IN STONE.

They say it takes a minute to find a special person,an hour toappreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them.

Extracted from web page - part 2

In continuation with yesterday's article by Andrew Galasetti
Know when you’re reaching your tipping point
One of the biggest obstacles keeping people from “just doing it” is not recognizing when they’re about to hit their tipping point.
If you’ve ever found yourself asking, “is this all there is to life?”, then you are closely approaching your tipping point. The same goes if you feel like you’re about to have a nervous breakdown.
You can either succumb to your emotions; or you can stand up, fight, and just go for whatever will make you happy. Once you cross the threshold towards your tipping point, your mind will never be the same and nothing can ever stop you; except yourself.
List what you don’t like about your life
Perhaps it is focusing on negativity a little too much; but grab a piece of paper and write down what you don’t like about your life. May be you don’t have enough money or worse you aren’t happy enough. For those who really want change, it’s enough for them to take the plunge.
Keep in mind:
“Just do it” is much easier said than done. And it should be that way. It separates the people who deserve it from those who don’t.
So what are you waiting for? get going!

Extracted from web page - part 1

“Just do it.” Three simple words that are simply powerful.
Nike made this phrase famous, but it’s not just a marketing gimmick. All you need is to “just do it” and you will reach a crucial tipping point in which you will go from saying and planning; to doing and proving.
It’s pretty scary to take a plunge into something like “just do it” implies. But here is how you go about it.
Don’t pick a time or day
“Just doing it” shouldn’t be precise; it should come to you out of the blue. There’s no need to pick a day or plan ahead.
Get pissed, get frustrated
I’ll be honest; I’m pissed and frustrated as I write this article right now. But it’s giving me an unbelievable amount of motivation, and even a little adrenaline to go for it.
Instead of fighting, crying, or complaining when you’re frustrated, funnel that energy into focus and action.
Remember that time’s a wastin’
Every month, week, day, hour, and minute you get closer to your end. Nothing will motivate you more to live than death.
Think less, act more
It might be risky, it might get you in trouble, but you must act more than you think. Forget the “what if’s.” F**K all the naysayers and whatever they tell you! Don’t worry if you fail. Don’t think about the money you’ll lose or gain. Be a little stupid and take a lot of action.
Lose these words and phrases
These aren’t real excuses.
“I can’t.”
“I don’t have enough money.”
You don’t need money to take the plunge.
“I don’t have enough time.”
Yes you do! I don’t care how busy you are. You don’t have enough time to wait.
“I don’t know where to start.”
“I don’t know how.”
Start learning. Get your feet wet and you’ll learn along the way.
“Later.”
No, now!
Stop acting like you’re busy
There are a lot of people out there who push papers around and act like they have so many places to go and so much to do. In reality, they’re just avoiding the actions that will get them what they really desire. May be it is because they’re scared or doubtful.
I don’t care who you are; you have time to “just do it” and chase something you want or need. You’ll just have to get less sleep, lose free time, and make lots of other sacrifices.

Have a positive day

If your obstaclesbring you down,let your determinationbring you up !!!!

Some healthy food tips for your kid

Kids, especially younger ones, will eat mostly what's available at home. That's why it's important to control the supply lines — the foods that you serve for meals and have on hand for snacks.

Follow these basic guidelines:

Work fruits and vegetables into the daily routine, aiming for the goal of at least five servings a day. Be sure you serve fruit or vegetables at every meal.

Make it easy for your child to choose healthy snacks by keeping fruits and vegetables on hand and ready to eat. Other good snacks include low-fat yogurt, peanut butter and celery, or whole-grain crackers and cheese.

Serve lean meats and other good sources of protein, such as fish, eggs, beans, and nuts.

Choose whole-grain breads and cereals so kids get more fiber. Limit fat intake by avoiding deep-fried foods and choosing healthier cooking methods, such as broiling, grilling, roasting, and steaming. Choose low-fat or nonfat dairy products.

Limit fast food and other low-nutrient snacks, such as chips and candy. But don't completely ban favorite snacks from your home. Instead, make them "once-in-a-while" foods, so kids don't feel deprived.

Limit sugary drinks, such as soda and fruit-flavored drinks. Serve water and low-fat milk instead.

Quote by Swami Vivekananda

The world is ready to give up its secrets

if we only know how to knock,

how to give it the necessary blow.

The strength and force of the blow

come through concentration.

-Swami Vivekananda

Have a great day

Great minds discuss ideas;

Average minds discuss events;

Small minds discuss people.

Interesting information I read somewhere

7 Unique Ways To Make Someone Smile

Do you want to put a smile on someone's face? Maybe make their day a little bit brighter? It doesn't have to take much time or money on your part. In fact, many things can be done as a part of your normal routine and cost little or nothing. You won't know how many people are encouraged by your kindness because smiles are contagious. Try out one or more of these 7 ways today to put smiles on their faces.
1. Write an encouraging note to others that have encouraged you or that need encouragement. Handwritten notes that are given to encourage, not just for thanking someone for a gift, are rare. That makes handwritten notes even more special. Start a new practice of sitting down and writing an encouraging note on a regular basis. You just might start an epidemic!
2. Take a friend out to lunch or invite her to your home for a meal. You will get to know each other even better than you do right now. If you feel like being more adventurous, throw a party for several of your friends and put smiles on a multitude of faces.
3. Give someone an inspirational book to read. You will feel good doing it, reading the book will change the person, and they will think of you every time they read it.
4. Ask a friend or relative if you can take care of their kid(s) for a day or evening. If you have been a parent, you know the value of being able to have a few hours of "adult time" without worrying about the children. Don't wait to be asked to baby-sit when it is required. Offer to do it at a time when the parent can do something fun and relaxing.
5. Deliver a meal to someone you know that is sick or having a rough time. We have all been sick and know the last thing you want to do is be out of bed. There are also times when life is tough and it is hard to do all of the daily chores. You can be a tremendous help by providing a meal that can be enjoyed.
6. Volunteer time to supporting your local church or charity. Every minute you dedicate to a church or charity will cause many smiles. You will put a smile on the face of each leader just for helping without being asked. You will also be putting smiles on the faces of those that are being helped through the organization.
7. Thank everyone that supports you throughout the day. The list of those that you come in contact with is endless. Remember family and friends, secretaries, co-workers, teachers, Sunday school teachers, pastors, store employees, janitors, gas station attendants, those that deliver your mail and newspaper, and servers at restaurants.
I know this is a list of 7 ways to put a smile on someone's face, but there is one more way that can't be ignored. Reveal a genuine smile to everyone you meet. You will experience how easy it is to get others to smile!

Its story time once again

A Lift and The Luggage

A man was driving his car to the town. On the way he saw a poor old man carrying a heavy load on his head. The sympathetic driver offered the old man a lift in his car to the town. The old man was very happy and thankfully entered the car and occupied the back seat. Turning back the driver was surprised to see him still carrying the load on his head. When asked he said," What you did to me is enough and more.. I don't want to trouble you further by addingthe load also to your car."Many of us travel to God like that old man still carrying our sins on our head. Let us unload our sins before His grace and feel free.

5 Special ways to bring smile on your dear ones face

Write a note today to say “thank you” to someone who has helped you or done something for you.

Hand-make a lovely card. Don’t worry if you’re not great at craft.

Do their chores.

Wrap up a surprise present.

Get a nice scrapbook and fill it with photos, newspaper clippings, graduation programs and anything else you can find that relates to special moments and days in the recipient’s life.

Picture Message

There are two way's of meeting Difficulties,You alter the difficulties, or you alteryourself to meet them.

- Phyllis Bottome

Quick Stress Relief Energy Exercise

Cook's hookup
This is great when you’re just plain frazzled, exhausted and thinking fuzzy. It will hook up the vibrational energy in your body so it is running smoothly again and infuse you with a sense of calm and relaxation.
1) Sit with one ankle crossed over the other ankle.
2) Cross one wrist over your other wrist.
3) With your two arms crossed in front, turn your hands over so palms face each other. Clasp your hands together like you’re shaking your own hand.
4) Bend your elbows so that your clasped hands turn under and in, towards your body, like a pretzel. Rest clasped hands against your heart.
5) Simply breathe gently in and out for approximately 2 minutes.
6) Then place feet flat on floor and uncross arms. Place your hands together, with only fingertips touching opposite fingertips, thumbs pointing towards your heart, hands in a "steepled" position. Breathe gently for approximately 30 seconds, and release.

Some quotes today

Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally.-David Frost

If you don't get everything you want, think of the things you don't get that you don't want.-Oscar Wilde

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.-Winston Churchill

Thoughts are like arrows: once released, they strike their mark. Guard them well or one day you may be your own victim.-American Indian Proverb, Navajo-

Watch this movie!

Hope all Indian blog readers must be aware of this movie Black, starring Amitabh Bachchan and Rani Mukherjee. Black is an amazing movie.

The story begins as the protagonist Michelle McNally, a blind and deaf girl totally confused and angry cause of her handicap. Her parents doesn't know how to deal with the summons a teacher, Debraj from a deaf and blind school. The teacher is tough with the obstinate girl and slowly reaches a truce with her. He gradually changes the wild thing into a presentable young lady. He introduces her to the world of light and sound. With his help she tries to make sense of the pitch dark world around her.. she learns her first words. The teacher becomes her constant companion and he has big ambitions for her. He helps to make her a graduate.

Black is a beautiful movie which touches you to the core and it is an experience one shouldn't miss.

After you are through with the movie you will really sense that we are so fortunate and can do wonders in this world. Our difficulties are just challenges we can fight with and chase our dreams with full dedication. This film's original language is Hindi. If you have a chance just check out for this and enjoy viewing.

Lovely message

Do not expect much from others and get disappointed,butdo not disappoint those whoexpect much from you.

Have we begun to learn?

A young man presented himself to the local expert on gems and said he wanted to become a gemologist. The expert brushed him off because he feared that the youth would not have the patience to learn. The young man pleaded for a chance. Finally the expert consented and told the youth, "Be here tomorrow." The next morning the expert put a jade stone in the boy's hand and told him to hold it. The expert then went about his work, cutting, weighing, and setting gems. The boy sat quietly and waited. The following morning the expert again placed the jade stone in the youth's hand and told him to hold it. On the third, fourth, and fifth day the expert repeated the exercise and the instructions. On the sixth day the youth held the jade stone, but could no longer stand the silence. "Master," he asked, "when am I going to learn something?" "You'll learn," the expert replied and went about his business. Several more days went by and the youth's frustration mounted. One morning as the expert approached and beckoned for him to hold out his hand, he was about to blurt out that he could go on no longer. But as the master placed the stone in the youth's hand, the young man exclaimed with-out looking at his hand, "This is not the same jade stone!" "

You have begun to learn," said the master.

Moral:Patience is a virtue, possess it if you can!

NIce article about productivity

This one is really a nice article, do go through this.

There are times when we feel disappointed with ourselves. Disappointed at not being able to give our best, disappointed with our habit of wasting time and disappointed with low levels of productivity from our end. This disappointment often leads to a negative mindset wherein we don't feel like doing anything despite knowing there's lots to do. As a result we tend to lose our motivation & excitement and feel overly lethargic.Here's a way which could help you get going despite your negative state of mind. The logic behind it is ignorance of persistent thoughts. Whenever you feel lost or low on motivation immediately take a piece of paper and do the following:

Write five tasks which would push you out of your comfort zone. Tasks which you know you are not really good at or may be tasks which you have been ignoring for long.
For the next 24 hours forget everything else and just focus on the sheet of paper.Make it a point to complete all those tasks within a day, irrespective of your other commitments.
Fold the paper and keep it with you. Forget everything else that's running on your mind and feel that the paper is your only source of strength and direction.

The most important thing is to control your mind. Any other thoughts apart from those related to your tasks should be flushed out (at least for the next 24 hours).

You would immediately feel a sense of excitement run through you. There would suddenly be a sense of direction in your mind. Most importantly, at the end of the tasks you would have achieved four objectives. One, completed tasks which you had been ignoring for long. Two, crossed your mental limitations (You would be doing stuff which you thought you weren't good at). Three, gained a new sense of self-confidence and momentum. Four, spent your past 24 hours in the best possible manner.

Keep doing this exercise whenever you feel low. Be it during office hours or 3 in the night. Once you are in a habit of following the exercise on a regular basis, your productivity levels would go high and most importantly there would hardly be a dull moment in your life.

Moreover, indirectly you would get to be aware of your strengths which you thought were never yours. The biggest obstacle when we want to do something different is our mind, which keeps telling us that we are not good at it. Another obstacle is the fear of public opinion. We are afraid of what others would think if we go about a task XYZ. During these 24 hour cycles, you would hardly get to think about your mind and public opinion. As a result there would be no external obstacles involved. Just you and your will power.

I personally find this method pretty refreshing and energizing. I'm not too sure if I've been able to put it in the right way but I hope the message has been conveyed with some clarity.

Valuable quote

Perfection does not come from belief or faith.

Talk does not count for anything.

Parrots can do that.

Perfection comes through selfless work.

-Swami Vivekananda

Art of Believing

Find this article on Belief I came across in some mail. Its very nice, read it and share it!

Some of the most practical success-building wisdom is found in that biblical quotation stating that faith can move mountains.Believe ,reallly believe you can move a mountain and you can. Not many people belive that they can move mountains. So as a result not many people do. On some occasion you have probably heard someone say something like,"it's nonsense to think u can make a mountain move bu just saying 'mountain , move away.' It's simply impossible.
People who think this way have belief confused with wishful thinking. And true enough ,you can't wish away a mountain. You can;t wish yourself into an executive suite. Nor can u wish yourself into a five bedroom,three bath house or the high income bracket.You can't wish yourself into a position of leadership.But you can move a mountain with belief. You can win success by believing you can succeed. There is nothing magical nor mystical about the power of belief. Belief works this way. Belief,the "the I am positive-i can " attitude generates the power,skill and energy needed to do.When you believe i can do it , the how to do it develops. Every day all over the nation young people start working in new jobs.Each of them "wishes" that someday he could enjoy the success that goes with reaching the top. But the majority of these young people simple don't have the belief that it takes to reach the top rungs. And they don't climb high,they do not discover the steps that lead to great heights.Their behavior remains that of the "average" person.
But a small number of these young people really believe that they will succeed.They approach their work with the "I'm going to the top" attitude.And with substantial belief they reach the top.Believing they will succeed and that it's not impossible -these Folks study and observer the behavior of senior executives,officers,members.They learn how successful people approach problems and make decisions.They observer the attitude of successful people.The how to do it always comes to the person who believes he can do it.
Here's an example to prove you that:-Example Of Belief
Those who believe they can move mountains,do.Those who believe they can't cannon.Belief triggers the power to do.Believe really believe you can succeed and you will.
Over the years we have observed people who failed in business ventures and in various careers.We have hear a lot of reasons and excuse for failur.Something significant unfolds as conversations with faulures develop.In a casual soft of way,the failure drops a remark like"To tell the truth,I didn't think it would work" or " I had my misgivings before i even started out"or" Actually ,I wasn't Too surprised that it didn't work out.The "okay-i will give it a try but i dont think it will work " attitude produces failures.Always think win-win in every situation.

What goes around - Comes around

One day, a farmer Fleming heard a cry for help coming form a near by bog. He ran there and saw a boy screaming and struggling to free himself. Fleming saved him form death. Next day, A nobleman came to Fleming's home and introduced as the father of the boy saved by Fleming and said," I want to repay you, you saved my son's life" but farmer Fleming denied the offer, at the same moment, farmer's son came. "Is this your son?" the nobleman asked, "Yes," the farmer replied. "I'll make you a deal. Let me take and give him good education, so he'll grow to a man you can be proud of and he did." In time, Farmer Fleming's son graduated form St. Mary's Hospital Medical School in London and the world noted him as Sir Alexander Fleming, The discoverer of Penicillin.

Now see following 3 points,

1] Year afterward, the nobleman's son was stricken with pneumonia. And what saved him? The penicillin.

2] The name of the Nobleman? Lord Randolph Churchill.

3] And his son's name? Sir Winston Churchill. " What goes around - Comes around"

Picture saying u a message

The dream is not what you see in sleep,

dream is the thing which does not let you sleep

The Book I like

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex by John Gray

I bet this book everyone will like as it was an eye opener to many people across the world to understand the opposite sex well. Based on years of successful counselling of couples and individuals, Dr. John Gray gives advice on how to counteract these differences in communication styles, emotional needs, and modes of behaviour to promote a greater understanding between partners. I learned a lot about the difference between men and women from this book. Generally most intelligent people assume they understand the differences between the sexes, and usually they don't. Understanding the fundamental differences and the way both partners think can help you in long run. You can learn how to communicate in a clear and non-critical way to your partner if you read this. I didn't say that it works out 100% since we all have our own way of approaching things, but in general books always helps us as a guiding tool and then why not we can take a chance and make a difference.

Forgiveness

A man came home to see newly painted hall. To his puzzlement, his little son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint on the wall.The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.Doctors amputated damaged n crushed bones of the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Dad, I'm sorry about your paint, but when are my fingers going to grow n work back?"Dad crossed the fingers n cried, but it was too late.

Moral: Too often we fail to recognize the difference between Intention and Behavior. We choose Behavior and take wrong decisions just because of anger an impatience. Think first before you lose your patience with someone you love. Patches can be repaired. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Among intention and behavior always choose Intention first.People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever. And keep in mind "The Law of Forgiveness".

Self Belief

I liked this article I read sometime back in a web page. Just wanted to share with you.

Have you ever heard someone tell I could have told this idea in the meeting but i thought it would sound stupid and the other person telling hey i liked your idea and the team leader too might have liked it? Here the person is afraid to showcase his potential because he thinks deep inside his heart that he is not worth much and his opinion doesn't count. In the long run we might see that this person is the one who acts like a coward and his body language will sound to others like " Here is a guy who is afraid of responsibility .Lets not hand him the job because his attitude clearly tells us that he is going to do an inferior work" But the other guy who shows the right attitude and shows confidence can easily get job because people know by his body language that he will do a great job and we can bank upon him .
What is the Difference between the two guys? Is it Because the latter one is lucky and the former one doesnt have too much on the ball? Noooo..... THe difference between them is how they feel about themself and the amount of self - belief they possess . IF you believe in yourself then the most important aspect of life - ATTITUDE will be on your side and once you have got the right attitude you can achieve anything in life.
Here Are some exercises to develop belief
1] In every difficult situation always think that you. Before every situation think that i am going to win no matter what happens.
2] Always feel that I have An absolutely amazing potential to take control of the situation and i am going to do well

Thought for the day

One of the best times to stay cool is during a crisis. Staying cool and calm during a time of adversity, helps us to think clearly and be strong. It's easier to be strong during good times, but it's the rough spots in life that provide us with special opportunities to advance to a higher level of confidence, completeness, and character.

Dream, Dream, Dream!

Whether you're a musician, a writer,an athlete or a businessman;

There is no getting around it.

The only way -You are going to get anywhere in life,

is by working hard to achieve your dreams.

If you do, you'll win;If you don't you won't.

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Dream what you want to dream

Go where you want to go

Be what you want to be

Because you have only one life

and one chance to do all

the things you want to do in life

Inspiring story - The Girl on the beach

One afternoon a young girl stood on the beach.The tide was exceptionally high,as there had been a storm,so the high waters had washed tens of thousands of starfish far up onto the beach.The young girl knew before the water ever reached that high again,the starfish would surely die.So she picked up the starfish, one by one and threw them back,trying to save as many as possible.A man walking on the beach stopped and seeing her said,"Why are u doing this? There are too many,you can never save them all.What difference can it possibly make?" The girl picked up a starfish and threw it into the ocean.She turned,looked at him and replied,"It makes a difference to that one.""Let the beauty we love be what we do"

Picture Message

Try to enjoy doing everything you do.
When you are interested in what you do, you enjoy doing it.
To be interested in what you do, you must try to do it better andbetter.
In progress lies true joy - The Mother

Visualising a Goal

Once you have acknowledged a goal, others energetically and enthusiastically endorse commitment to the goal.
Set your goal by settling on the aim, target, reason etc. This can be related to job, relationships, home, happier state of mind etc.
Generate a concise idea or picture, of the situation exactly as you would like it, thinking of it in the present tense as already in existence. Incorporate as much detail as your imagination allows.
Concentrate on it regularly, making it part of your daily routine and a natural thought rather than one that uses up unreasonable levels of effort.
Make it a positive, and encouraging thought. Think strong positive definitions of achieving the goal. Dispelling any doubts.
Pursue the goal, until it is achieved or you no longer wish to continue its pursuit, or indeed the goal alters in your mind.
Once goal has been attained, make clear admission, pat yourself on the back and move onto the next goal.
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I used to practice this with a dream chart. I paste the pictures of all those things which I want to achieve and have attained them too. Do this... you can see a difference.

Why do we read Bhagavat Gita?

This is a wonderful story I have read.

An old Farmer lived on a farm in the mountains with his young grandson. Each morning Grandpa was up early sitting at the kitchen table reading his Bhagavath Geetha. His grandson wanted to be just like him and tried to imitate him in every way he could.One day the grandson asked, "Grandpa! I try to read the Bhagavath Geetha just like you but I don't understand it, and what I do understand I forget as soon as I close the book. What good does reading the Bhagavath Geetha do?"The Grandfather quietly turned from putting coal in the stove and replied, "Take this coal basket down to the river and bring me back a basket of water." The boy did as he was told, but all the water leaked out before he got back to the house. The grandfather laughed and said, "You'll have to move a little faster next time," and sent him back to the river with the basket to try again. This time the boy ran faster, but again the basket was empty before he returned home. Out of breath, he told his grandfather that it was impossible to carry water in a basket, and he went to get a bucket instead. The old man said, "I don't want a bucket of water; I want a basket of water. You're just not trying hard enough," and he went out the door to watch the boy try again. At this point, the boy knew it was impossible, but he wanted to show his grandfather that even if he ran as fast as he could, the water would leak out before he got back to the house.The boy again dipped the basket into river and ran hard, but when he reached his grandfather the basket was again empty. Out of breath, he said,"See Grandpa, it's useless!"

"So you think it is useless?" The old man said, "Look at the basket." The boy looked at the basket and for the first time realized that the basket was different. It had been transformed from a dirty old coal basket and was now clean, inside and out."Son, that's what happens when you read the Bhagavath Geetha. You might not understand or remember everything, but when you read it, you will be changed, inside and out. That is the work of Lord Krishna in our lives."

Words Magic

“Can’t” - This is a small word with big impact. It makes us feel week and damages our self-esteem. It will limit abilities and stops us not to think in a creative way. Change this word in your personal dictionary, I mean the sub concious mind and replace it with something that makes you feel great.

Start saying “I choose …” or “I can …”. Using words like this allows you to take back your power and to be in control of your life.

Words will surely appear small but they have a deep and lasting effect on us. Mastering your language gives you the power to live whatever life you desire.

Make a list of words you commonly use and then write next to them some alternative positive words and replace them everywhere and you can use surely see a change in your life and also influence in others lives.

Wish you a very happy newyear - Think today!

Before you think of saying an unkind word

Think of someone who can't speak

Before you complain about the taste of your food

Think of someone who has nothing to eat

Before you complain about your husband or wife

Think of someone who's crying out to God for a companion

Today before you complain about life

Think of someone who went too early to heaven

Before you complain about your children

Think of someone who desires children but they're barren

Before you argue about your dirty house; someone didn't clean or sweep

Think of the people who are living in the streets

Before whining about the distance you drive

Think of someone who walks the same distance with their feet

And when you are tired and complain about your job

Think of the unemployed, the disabled and those who wished they had your job.

But before you think of pointing the finger or condemning another

Remember that not one of us are without sin and we all answer to one maker

And when depressing thoughts seem to get you down

Put a smile on your face and thank God you're alive and still around.

One nice quote

"Every one of us, unconsciously, works out a personal philosophy of life, by which we are guided, inspired, and corrected, as time goes on. It is this philosophy by which we measure out our days, and by which we advertise to all about us the man, or woman, that we are. . . . It takes but a brief time to scent the life philosophy of anyone. It is defined in the conversation, in the look of the eye, and in the general mien of the person. It has no hiding place. It's like the perfume of the flower — unseen, but known almost instantly. It is the possession of the successful, and the happy. And it can be greatly embellished by the absorption of ideas and experiences of the useful of this earth." George Matthew Adams

Air

A young man asked Socrates the secret to success. Socrates told th young man to meet him bear the river the next morning. They met. Socrates asked the young man to walk with him toward the reiver. When the water got up to their neck, Socrates tookt he young man by surprise and ducked him into the water. The boy struggled to get out but Socrates was strong and kep him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled his head out of the water and the first thing the young man did was to gasp and take a deep breath of air. Socrates asked "what did you want the most when you were there?" The boy replied, "air". Socrates said, "That is the secret to success. When you want success and badly as you wanted the air, then you will get it." There is no other secret.

Moral : A burning desire is required to acheive great success.

You can

IF you think you can win, you have won.....

Hey Hi once again!

Hi Buddies, how are you? Abrahamster back again with a new thought to share with you all.

He is so inspired with the Boy zone songs lyrics and he keep singing "The more you give, the more you get, Always try, not to forget. So give it all away, hey.... All that you want...... Will be yours"....

Think Differently

A blind boy sat on the steps of a building with a hat by his feet. He held up a sign which said: "I am blind, please help." There were only a few coins in the hat.A man was walking by. He took a few coins from his pocket and dropped them into the hat.

He then took the sign, turned it around, and wrote some words. He put the sign back so that everyone who walked by would see the new words.Soon the hat began to fill up. A lot more people were giving money to the blind boy.

That afternoon the man who had changed the sign came to see how things were. The boy recognized his footsteps and asked, "Were you the one who changed my sign this morning? What did you write?"The man said, "I only wrote the truth. I said what you said but in a different way."

What he had written was: "Today is a beautiful day and I cannot see it."Do you think the first sign and the second sign were saying the same thing?Of course both signs told people the boy was blind. But the first sign simply said the boy was blind. The second sign told people they were so lucky that they were not blind. Should we be surprised that the second sign was more effective?

Moral of the Story: Be thankful for what you have. Be creative. Be innovative. Think differently and positively.

5 steps for active listening

Extracted from webpage.

Step 1 - When someone come to you as a friend to tell you about a problem they are going through or something important that happened you don't won't to let them down.....!!!so you have to be a good listener
Step2 - You have to let them be comfort in saying anything they wanna say if they don't wanna speak then it's up to them.you also wanna keep the conversation private between you two except when he/she fells it's okay to tell others about it.
Step3 - If they began to tell there story don't interrupt them by stupid comments or asking questions out of the subject.if he/she is telling a good thing that happened to them feel free to give comments. Step4 - If it is a bad thing or a problem don't give comments just listen & let him/her feel that you are really concentrating with them instead of doing anything else
Step5 - Let him/her finish there talking then don't speak till they tell you that they are finished or ask you for your opinion.feel free to say your opinion after they finish even if it was contrary to what they say but put it in a good way

A Post on Success

"One of the commonest mistakes and one of the costliest is thinking that success is due to some genius, some magic — something or other which we do not possess. Success is generally due to holding on, and failure to letting go. You decide to learn a language, study music, take a course of reading, train yourself physically. Will it be success or failure? It depends upon how much pluck and perseverance that word “decide” contains. The decision that nothing can overrule, the grip that nothing can detach will bring success. Remember the Chinese proverb, “With time and patience, the mulberry leaf becomes satin." - Maltbie Davenport Babcock

5 step guide for maintaining positive attitude

Believe in yourself and believe each moment is perfect and you can do wonders.
Stay optimistic and involve in every activity with passion.
Act instead of reacting. Create the best life you possibly can, one day at a time.
A positive attitude attracts positive actions. Gratitude attracts positive energy. Hence learn to be grateful.
Always keep your sense of humor alive.

Focus

An ancient Indian sage was teaching his disciples the art of archery. He put a wooden bird as the target and asked them to aim at the eye of the bird. The first disciple was asked to describe what he saw. He said, "I see the trees, the brances, the leaves, the sky, the bird and its eye.".

The sage asked this disciple to wait. Then he asked the second disciple the same question and he replied, "I only see the eye of the bird." The sage said, "Very good, then shoot." The arrow went straight and hit the eye of the bird.

Moral : Unless we focus, we cannot achieve our goad. It is hard to focus and concentrate, but it is a skill that can be learned.

Egg

If an egg is broken from OUTSIDE a life comes to an END.

When the egg breaks from WITHIN, a life is BORN......

GREAT and GOOD things need ti HAPPEN from within...

Book Review

The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari: A Fable About Fulfilling Your Dreams & Reaching Your Destiny by Robin Sharma

Again this is my hubby's favourite book. He insists me to read this. So just to have an idea about it I came across this book review in net and wish to share with you all.

Editorial Review
Everyone loves a good fable, and this is certainly one. The protagonist is Julian Mantle, a high-profile attorney with a whacked-out schedule and a shameful set of spiritual priorities. Of course it takes a crisis (heart attack) to give Mantle pause. And pause he does--suddenly selling all his beloved possessions to trek India in pursuit of a meaningful existence. The Himalayan gurus along the way give simple advice, such as, "What lies behind you and what lies before you is nothing compared to what lies within you." Yet it is easy to forgive the story's simplicity because each kernel of wisdom is framed to address the persistent angst of Western white-collar professionals. --Gail Hudson

Echo--story

A son and his father were walking on the mountains.

Suddenly, his son falls, hurts himself and screams: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"

To his surprise, he hears the voice repeating, somewhere in the mountain: "AAAhhhhhhhhhhh!!!"

Curious, he yells: "Who are you?"

He receives the answer: "Who are you?"

And then he screams to the mountain: "I admire you!"The voice answers: "I admire you!"

Angered at the response, he screams: "Coward!"He receives the answer: "Coward!"

He looks to his father and asks: "What's going on?"

The father smiles and says: "My son, pay attention."

Again the man screams: "You are a champion!"The voice answers: "You are a champion!"

The boy is surprised, but does not understand.

Then the father explains: "People call this ECHO, but really this is LIFE.It gives you back everything you say or do.Our life is simply a reflection of our actions.If you want more love in the world, create more love in your heart.If you want more competence in your team, improve your competence.This relationship applies to everything, in all aspects of life;Life will give you back everything you have given to it.

"YOUR LIFE IS NOT A COINCIDENCE. IT'S A REFLECTION OF YOU!"

5 point technique to stay happy

Accept yourself.

Take care of your health.

Surround yourself with happy people.

Prioritize your life.

Be grateful

Quotes for Attitude

"“It is our attitude at the beginning of a difficult task which, more than anything else, will affect it’s successful outcome.”–William James

"I am still determined to be cheerful and happy, in whatever situation I may be; for I have also learned from experience that the greater part of our happiness or misery depends upon our dispositions, and not upon our circumstances."- Martha Washington

“To be a great champion you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.” ––Muhammad Ali

"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be cumbered with your old nonsense." –– Ralph Waldo Emerson

I'ts not what happens to you that determines how far you will go in life ;it is how you handle what happens to you. Zig Ziglar

Interesting quotes

" Hate is easy, Love takes courage "

" The things you regret in life, are the risks you didn't take "

"A person doesn't have to be perfect, to be exactly what you need "

" Stand out - because fitting in is overrated "

" Sometimes it's best to forget how you feel and remember what you deserve "

Sharpen your axe

John, a woodcutter, worked for a company for five years but never got a raise. The company hired Bill and within a year he got a raise. This caused resentment in john and he went to his boss to talk about it. The boss said, "you are still cutting hte same number of trees you were cutting five years ago. We are a result-oriented company and would be happy to give you a raise if your productivity goes up." John went back, started hitting harder and putting in longer hours but he still wasn't able to cut more trees. He went back to his boss and told him his dilemma. The boss told John to go talk to Bill. "May be there is something Bill knows that you and I don't". John asked Bill how he managed to cut more trees. Bill answered, "After every tree I cut, I take a break for two minutes and sharpen my axe. When was the last time you sharpened your axe?" This question hit home like a bullet and John got his answer.

Just like this axe one has to sharpen your knowledge too in time to time.

Criticism

Don't mind criticism.

If it's untrue, disregard it;

If it's unfair, stay calm; I

f it's ignorant, smile;

If it's justified, learn from it.

The books I like the most

'What to Say When you Talk To Yourself' by Shad Helmstetter
'Who Moved My Cheese?' by Dr. Spencer Johnson
'The Power of Positive Thinking' by Norman Vincent Peale
'Tough Times Never Last, But Tough People Do' by Dr. Schuller
'You Can Win' by Shiv Khera
"The DaVinci Code" - by Dan Brown
'Everything I Know At The Top I Learned At The Bottom' by Dexter Yager
'Think and Grow Rich' by Napoleon Hill
'Read and Grow Rich' by Burke Hedges
'Magic of Thinking Big' by Dr.Schwartz
'See You at the Top' by Zig Ziglar

Garbage Truck

One day I hopped in a taxi and we took off for the airport. We were driving in the right lane when suddenly a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car by just inches! The driver of the other car whipped his head around and started yelling at us. My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was really friendly. So I asked, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!" This is when my taxi driver taught me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck." He explained that many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it and sometimes they'll dump it on you. Don't take it personally. Just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. Don't take their garbage and spread it to other people at work, at home, or on the streets.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let garbage trucks take over their day. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so..... "Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't."

Happiness - a nice quote

"What is the best thing for a stream? It is to keep moving. If it stops, it stagnates. So the best thing for a man is that which keeps the currents going — the physical, the moral, and the intellectual currents. Hence the secret of happiness is — something to do; some congenial work. Take away the occupation of all men, and what a wretched world it would be!Few persons realize how much of their happiness is dependent upon their work, upon the fact that they are kept busy and not left to feed upon themselves. Happiness comes most to persons who seek her least, and think least about it. It is not an object to be sought; it is a state to be induced. It must follow and not lead. It must overtake you, and not you overtake it. How important is health to happiness, yet the best promoter of health is something to do.Blessed is the man who has some congenial work, some occupation in which he can put his heart, and which affords a complete outlet to all the forces there are in him."John Burroughs

Valuable Quotes

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal - Henry ford

Make no little plans, they have no magic to stir men's blood... Make big plans, aim high in hope and work - Daniel H. Burnham

Nothing great is ever achieved without enthusiasm - Ralph Waldo Emerson

It is one of the most beautiful compensations of life that no man can sincerely try to help another without helping himself - Ralph Waldo Emerson

Benjamin Franklin said, "When you are good to others, you are best to yourself"

Few more quotes

You can’t have a light without a dark to stick it in.- Arlo Guthrie
Since light travels faster than sound, people appear bright until you hear them speak.
A light, tender, sensitive touch is worth a ton of brawn.- Peter Thomson
Who is more foolish, the child afraid of the dark or the man afraid of the light?- Maurice Freehill
There are two ways of spreading light: to be the candle or the mirror that reflects it.- Edith Wharton
Nothing travels faster than light, with the possible exception of bad news, which follows its own rules.
There is not enough darkness in all the world to put out the light of even one small candle.- Robert Alden
Live in rooms full of light.- Cornelius Celsus
Light is meaningful only in relation to darkness, and truth presupposes error. It is these mingled opposites which people our life, which make it pungent, intoxicating. We only exist in terms of this conflict, in the zone where black and white clash.- Louis Aragon

Most important part of a body

My mother used to ask me: "What is the most important part of the body?"Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct answer. When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, "My ears, Mommy."Mother said, "No Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon."

Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer. So this time I told her, "Mommy, sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes." Mother looked at me and told me, "You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind."

Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge. Over the years, Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, "No, but you are getting smarter every year, my child."

Then last year, my grandpa died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry. My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final good-bye to Grandpa.Mother asked me, "Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?"I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me.

Mother saw the confusion on my face and told me, "This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in your life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you was wrong and I have given you an example why. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson."Mother looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears. Mother said, "My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder."I asked, "Is it because it holds up my head?"

Mother replied, "No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear.

Concern

There is a great difference between
worry and concern;
Worry frets about a problem;
Concern solves the problem

Abrahamster - back with a thought

Abraham says that Well Being Wants You... Keep smiling and have a great attitude of staying happy always!

Have a happy day!

GREAT VALUE IN DISASTER

Thomas Edison's laboratory was virtually destroyed by fire in December, 1914. Although the damage exceeded $2 million, the buildings were only insured for $238,000 because they were made of concrete and thought to be fireproof.Much of Edison's life's work went up in spectacular flames that December night.

At the height of the fire, Edison's 24-year old son, Charles, frantically searched for his father among the smoke and debris.He finally found him, calmly watching the scene, his face glowing in the reflection, his white hair blowing in the wind."My heart ached for him," said Charles."He was 67 - no longer a young man - and everything was going up in flames.

When he saw me, he shouted, "Charles, where's your mother?"When I told him I didn't know, he said, "Find her. Bring her here. She will never see anything like this as long as she lives."The next morning, Edison looked at the ruins and said, "There is great value in disaster. All our mistakes are burned up. Thank God we can start anew."

Three weeks after the fire, Edison managed to deliver his first phonograph.Oh my, it's very beautiful over there.Thomas EdisonTo invent, you need a good imagination and a pile of junk.Thomas Edison

Give it!

Extract from the book You can win

Do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind.

Dr. Krl Menninger, a world-renowned psychiatrist, was once asked, "What would you advise someone if you knew that person was going to have a nervous breakdown?" The audience expected Dr. Menninger to advise consulting a professional. But he didn't. He said, "I would advise that person to lock home, go the other side of town, find someone in need and help that person. By doing that we get out of our own way." A lot of times we get in our own way, don't we?

Be a volunteer. It builds self-worth. Helping others as you would expect others to help you gives a feeling of gratification. It is a good feeling which represents high self esteem. The process of giving without having expectations or getting anything in return raises one's self-esteem.

A healthy personality has the need not only to get but also to give.

Great Quote

I like this quote very much. I personally feel we should give our 100% in whatever we do.

This quote clearly explains it..

"If a man is called to be streetsweeper, he should sweep streeets even as Michelangelo painted, or Beethoven composed music, or Shakespeare wrote poetry. He should sweep streets so well that all the hosts of heaven and earth will pause to say, here lived a great streetsweeper who did his job well" - by Martin Luther Kind, Jr.

Thought for the day

Don´t shy away from challenges ... facing them is the only way you can improve.

Look inside for your strength, then share that strength with others.

Always maintain your sense of humor, share it with others when things get too intense.

Make the play first, then decide if it was impossible.

Admit your mistakes.

It shows character and inner strength.

Efforts

A giant ship engine failed. The ship's owners tried one expert after another, but none of them could figure but how to fix the engine.

Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing ships since he was a young. He carried a large bag of tools with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work. He inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.

Two of the ship's owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached into his bag and pulled out a small hammer. He gently tapped something. Instantly, the engine lurched into life. He carefully put his hammer away. The engine was fixed!

A week later, the owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand dollars. "What?!" the owners exclaimed. "He hardly did anything!" So they wrote the old man a note saying, "Please send us an itemized bill."

The man sent a bill that read:

Tapping with a hammer...... ........ ......... $ 2.00

Knowing where to tap......... ........ ........ $ 9, 998.00

Effort is important, but knowing where to make an effort makes all the difference!

Wonderful Thought

One of the most difficult things to give away is

kindness, for it is usually returned.