Live Positive Way

There is a myth.... To be a woman, you have to be beautiful, fair complexion, of good height and must look healthy.

It will start from childhood, being born with a wheatish complexion is a sin especially if the girl is born in an orthodox brahmin family. 'Oh! How the parents going to find a suitable groom...?' is the question started since the girl be 4 or 5 years old. Its ridiculous to hurt that tiny heart with such stupid comments without realising its impact.

If the parents are underprivileged than its the worst thing for that small girl. She will be pressurised in all corners of her life. 'Hey, your parents cannot afford you with some professional course and you being dull complexion how are you going to manage with a better groom?' (as if only marriage is the ultimate accomplishment for a girl). More than a concern it is always a sharp prick on the wound.  Perhaps they are enjoying the way that little girl is suffering to digest that harsh fate.

People consider themselves as 'Professional Counselors'. They comment, 'if you learn some shorthand (was famous three decades back perhaps now no one even bother to try that), you can be placed "at least" a Stenographer, but for that too you must possess some pleasing personality'. As if the looks are more important than knowledge and that is enough for that little girl to loose all hopes in life.

Unfortunately the one who pass on such comments will be the very Aunt of that child. We talk so much about women empowerment, but have anyone realised how unethical it is being a woman commenting about another woman in a bad way?

Hope time is changing now...at least most of the ladies understand to educate their girl children to have more confidence in themselves and make them realise that the looks, beauty, complexion, education everything comes only next to her attitude. If she posses positive attitude she can achieve everything in life. She is unique in some way, she is superior and she is a complete person herself. 

It doesn't matter if she is professionally qualified but what matters more is the way she provides a solid companionship to her husband with her support in tough times. It doesn't matter if she is able to educate her child with academic topics but to teach her child how to communicate with others, how to identify their strengths and the way she can mould her child to become an outstanding individual. It doesn't matter if she is a Master chef but if she is able to take care of her family needs it is sufficient enough.

We are stepping up in the new age world where all negative conventional way will not work out. If one keeps complaining, gossiping about others surely in short time they will only get neglected and ignored.  Its always there since ages that women alone are the women's enemy. Let's change it. We all can come together and help each other in balancing us. To create a better future for our children it is our duty to start being more positive and naive. There is nothing in the world a woman cannot do, so let's concentrate in something productive and relish ourselves with the greatest accomplishments of life.

Let's recreate positive energy!

Let's live and let live!

Wishing a very Happy International Women's Day! 

- Suganthi Sankaran.