Live Positive Way - A special bonding!

Live Positive Way - A special bonding!

Let's start with a riddle...
Those sparkling eyes, ease out the pain.
That prettiest smile...relieves the stress.
It possesses no name, still adds meaning to life.
That demands no commitment, still it keeps going for years…
Create new chapters, revives old memories…

Just before starting this new blog post, I would like to extend my sincere gratitude to those who read my blog posts regularly. Your valuable comments, your continuous support and encouraging words keep me motivated and help me pen down my thoughts regularly. 

Motivation – remains one predominant thing that pushes us to achieve more. The person who stays motivated can handle any situation, but sometimes we need something more than just motivation to stay active. Hope you agree! 

There are a few blessed people who stay afresh, keep accomplishing new things and always stay active. They are not supernatural beings but they must be having someone in their life who consistently keeps them happy. This "someone special" give them that much needed 'extra power' without even remotely realising that they are doing it. Even during extremely bad times just one ‘Hi’ message or even a ‘forward’ message from the "special someone" will brighten up the day. Wondering who this is? Since I mentioned ‘the special someone’ it doesn’t necessarily imply only the better-half.

This person 'may not' be our parents, spouse, siblings, friends, colleagues whom we meet every day, but that ‘special someone’ will still remain an integral part of our life. When we are struck in a profound tension, one call from this person will immediately light up our spirits. When we feel that none of our close relatives understand us or to support us, this "special someone" will ensure that they are there for us always and will share a perpetual bonding and an emotional comfort. A casual glance from a distance, a quick meal together, a short ride with this person, can keep our mind charged up for a longer time.

Some relationships in life come without a ‘name tag, yet they become very close to heart'. They will help us understand ourselves better and make us feel our real worth and keep us going when we experience challenging times in life. They will be our confidant with whom we can share all our fears and challenges and be assured that they will never take advantage of our short-comings.

There be crazy moments of casual leg pulling and funny chats too. We will feel like a child when we are with them. They may even be distance apart and might hardly meet them but when we catch-up, it be an instant connect and feel like picking up the chat from where we left yesterday and the comfort that we have with them will be unmatched.

Not everyone whom we meet in our life can stir the magic inside us, but such a special person 'can' create that magic in our life. We keep wondering on how to label that relationship? Brotherhood? Sisterhood? Love? ‘Best friends’? But actually it does not fit into only one of these categories instead it stands above all these nomenclatures and stays special in our heart forever. It’s unimaginable to think of our good days without them even if they aren’t a part of our every day’s routine life. They will never breach our trust, there will be a small distance at times but eventually they are back in our life. There will always be something special with this person---a relationship without a “Name Tag.” 

I always have the habit of putting a name tag for everyone I meet. I make them my brother, sister, aunt, friend, etc. But with age and maturity I feel it is not necessary to have a name tag for every relationship that we make. There exists some relationship with special bonding 'without a name tag', and yet will outshine all other relationships, it is meant to be called - the soul connection – an ‘eternal’ relationship? 

We are constantly taught and conditioned by our society to create such tags for every human being that we meet in our life but I feel it is not necessary at all. All the while when you were reading this blog you might have thought about someone who fits into this category. If you have such a bonding with a 'special someone' you are lucky. By the way some may think such a relationship without a name tag can exist only between people of opposite sex, but that’s not true. It can be between people of same sex, without any age bar, can be a small child next door, it can be an elderly person with whom you interact with. As love has no bounds so do certain relationships. Keep that relationship alive and the spark alive.

It has no name, yet profoundly meaningful.
That demands no commitment, still it keeps going for years…
Creating new chapters, new memories…Forever and ever…
 
Keep blog walking! Stay positive!

- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way

 

Live Positive Way - Mindfulness!

Live Positive Way!

I guess, one word, which is repeatedly being heard throughout this pandemic is this word, ‘Mindfulness’.  Many have written, shared and even conducted webinars on this topic ‘mindfulness’.  Most of them connected the ‘Mindfulness’ with ‘Zen’ and kept insisting to stay in the ‘present’ and not to think about the ‘past’ and the ‘future’.  Basically staying aware of oneself and the surroundings is actually mindfulness--as I understood the term. However, whatever I heard from many speakers, or articles that I read written by many writers, it is interpreted as staying 'only' in the present and direct us to forget the past and leave the future in the hands of god.

Yes... future being a hypothetical thing we may not worry much about it and keep doing our work, but, I somehow feel unconvinced when anyone say that we must forget the 'past'. They may say so referring 'only' to the sufferings or the challenges of the past, but past consists of 'both' positive and negative traces.  Today’s present is going to be tomorrow’s past, so whatever we do and learn today is going to certainly benefit us in the time to come in the form of good 'lessons'. Life is a 'mixed bag'. We do have wonderful memories associated with our childhood days. Some great learnings that we have gained through our associations, the immense support and encouragement that we received from others, which continues to drive us even today. Hence it sounds unethical and illogical to forget those things. Am I right in thinking so?

Some may have a recent loss of a loved one in the family, like me, or even passing away of some legendary person whom we liked very much, who mattered a lot (there will be so many fond incidences and memories associated with them) but that too had become a past now. But deep in our mind we constantly keep thinking and recollecting what all happened in the past. Revisiting some lovely memories of our past will motivate us to stay positive and alive.  There are hence many things which keep on rekindling our enchanting past positive memories.  I personally feel that we all have super brains which can adjust and tune as per our instructions. We can monitor it by giving suggestions like, ‘keep all old memories in ‘Fond memories’ folder and bind all negative or troubled memories in a folder called ‘learnings’.  We can indeed add a 'command/suggestion', “hey brain, whenever you think back about a past bad experience, do put a tag saying --- it is gone, the pain is not there now but I have learned something.  It is really tough to ignore our past experiences. I guess, the extraordinary people or saints can do it, not a normal human being like us.

Can we ever forget the ‘Malgudi days’, our ‘grandma stories’? Or the way we tapped our legs for our favorite beats with our friends? Or the lovely moon time food with our cousins? Or the way we fell down a hundred times while we started riding our bicycle? Or the first day and the first time love blossomed? Or the first hand made gift we gave to our parents on their anniversary or birthdays? This list will go on and on and the life goes on adding a new experience and a new chapter and all these will get stored as ‘memories’ and ‘learnings’ as per the nature of the individual.  That’s called life cycle, which you and I cannot change or forget even if we try or wish to do.

To add to this, I wish to include my husband’s advice here.  He keeps saying, ‘never judge a person with just a few incidents or behavior, since people may change and such (bad) behavior of the person may just be for that particular event (moment)’.  Hence holding grudges about past incidents or people will only strain our mind and getting hold of negative past as a learning can help us to even enjoy past fond memories even deeply.  People who can follow this can get liberated from the past bad experience and will be able to grow even better and become successful individuals.  I feel it is not even necessary to forget anything.  It just happened and we moved on.  On the other hand, we can reap the benefits of remembering fond memories again and again.  Remembering good things and good people is always a pleasure and why not enjoy that? If I sound like a Charuvakka, let it be. 

Life is not an exhibition to just display the present situation, but it is a balanced package of all that occurred in the past which created this pleasant present life! At present my ‘mind’ is ‘full’ of ‘fond memories’ and hence, to me, I am ‘mindful’ now.  I have penned down my views here, you may agree or may not agree with me.  You can post your views in my comment box!  Let’s do it today and make this blog a past fond memory. I will revisit and enjoy reading your comments again and again. Keep blogging and stay happy…. Sorry.. Stay Mindful!

- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way

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- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way - A tribute!

Live Positive Way - A tribute!

A little girl, who was staying away from her dad, at her uncle’s place, got hurt once. She lost a good amount of blood and got a big bandage wrapped onto her leg. She was taken care off well by her aunty, but still, she kept weeping and repeatedly said, “Appa inga irun-dirun-dah, evlo-nalla-irun-diruk-kum” (How nice it would have been if dad was here with me now?). The girl was missing her dad terribly and was dozing off due to medication. When she opened her eyes, she saw her dad sitting next to her wounded leg. That was in the year 1987, when telephones were considered a luxury and there were no mobile phones or WhatsApp available to contact others. By the way....on the very same day her dad came all the way from Chennai to Vadalur, which is roughly about 200+ kilometers away. That is the kind of bonding that the father had with his daughter.

Recently someone appreciated me for my blog posts and writing skills. I said, ‘I owe it to my dad.’ She replied, ‘but it's you who studied well and became capable of writing.’ She knew very little about my dad, but she doesn’t know that my dad was the finest orator that I knew and he can grab the attention of the entire crowd with his amazing oratorical skill and proficiency in Tamil language. I just follow his narrative style while I write. 

When I was in tender age, he started encouraging me by bringing ‘Ambulimama’, ‘Gokulam’ books regularly despite the little money he had for himself. He encouraged me to read more since he believed books are the best friends. He took pride in me even for the smallest things I did. Slowly but steadily he groomed me as a mentor. More than a dad, on many occasions he doubled up as my friend with whom I have shared all of my challenges for which he always had some solutions to offer. When at times I got average marks he softly used to say, ‘What happened this time? I hope you will score well next time’ and motivate me to aspire for better results next time. I even had the privilege of signing his signature on behalf of him. He trusted me since I was very small, and I am happy and proud now to say that I had that place intact in his heart till his last breathe. He used to tell everyone that his daughter listens to whatever he says. I am happy to hear from everyone now that how much he used to speak about me to them. He allowed me to explore my life. He sent me miles away when I got a job in New Delhi. My dad believed in me, my abilities and talents, he kept encouraging me whenever I had a fall.

My dad had a unique way of connecting with people. Everyone loves him. He can relate to people of all ages -- from a senior citizen to a toddler. The best extrovert, I have ever seen in my life is my dad. He was instrumental in me getting connected to all of his relatives, friends and the ones he loved much. No one will believe if I say that I was an introvert before, and he changed me for good. When I expressed my displeasure of not able to stand in front of people and talk confidently, he started coaching me by taking to beach and asked me to start talking loud to the waves. It’s because of my dad ‘Marina’ beach became my most favorite place on earth. Numerous times he took me there and created an emotional bonding with it.

When I look back at my journey... I realize .. 

since 'he was fond' of his culture and heritage, I learned Mahabharata and Ramayana.

Since he loved MGR and Rajnikanth, they remain special in my heart even today.

Since he believed, having more people is the most valuable asset in life; I earned many friends, wherever I went. 

He may be a simple person to many, but 'for me' he is my pillar of strength, my powerhouse, the most influential person in my life. He had chosen my subjects for higher studies; he had chosen my husband, and he had chosen my first job and even the present profession of being a 'Special Educator'. Dad visualized me as a passionate Special Educator even before I thought of taking it as my profession. He even expressed what I must do before I start my last journey. That much is his influence in my life. 

“My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person, he believed in me.”- Jim Valvano

I have quoted this many a time in my posts on Father's Day or in some of my blog posts. This quote validates my entire journey so far. It is painful to see that my dad is physically not present today, with whom I was so much connected since I came into existence. He is the one who understands my pain and unsaid emotions. He believed in me when I haven’t even known the meaning of the word ‘belief.’

It is now been more than a fortnight since he left for his heavenly abode. Suddenly, I lost all my confidence. I have become an introvert, almost stopped communicating with many, staying away from social networks (otherwise remains active), restricting myself to just four walls and engaging in household chores. Then suddenly realized that this is not how my dad will like me to be. This is not the one for whom he felt proud. I have to get back to my real persona, which he will certainly love seeing. He has read all my blog posts so far and have appreciated me. I just can’t stay silent since I must keep ‘Sankaran’ alive forever through my name Suganthi ‘Sankaran’.

I lost my dad, that's a fact and as a cheaper mortal, I cannot change it, it is indeed a painful experience that I haven't endured ever in my life, but I commit to myself that I must remain grateful for everything that he did for me. I am sure he has left a great impact on many lives. He taught me how to stay grounded by not forgetting the past. Only that can keep us humble and genuine. I will love you and miss you appa forever. Since we in our culture believe in eternal connection, I am sure, you are with me now as a guiding star, staying in my heart and going to show me the right path as always.

A simple tribute to the greatest dad!

By the way the little girl at Vadalur was Suganthi, and she had that telepathic connect with her appa Sankaran, who rushed to be with his daughter. Within a few hours after he had arrived, they both went to Vadalur Vallalar Temple, that too by walk! 

- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way - From my lockdown diaries (3)

Live Positive Way

She was born with a silver spoon, and she was pampered with love and care.

All through her life, she only met beautiful souls and her life was a blissful sail.

The breeze never forgot to touch her face and bring a refreshing....soothing.....smile.

She had never faced hurdles, since she's blessed to live without hassles.

Is she an angel?

An enlightened soul?

Does she live in heaven?

Or in lovely woods?

No way!

Her eyes opened....bringing her back, to her 'real present'.

She remembered.....

How she dreamt of those small things in her childhood days but later learned to adjust her ways.

How she believed, everyone will stay kind to her but only to realise kindness has quit humanity and taken a back seat.

Then....,

She wandered in the skies to check for her stars, to change her charm and make her shine.

She wandered in the sea and in the sea waves, to make her sorrows stay away.

She wandered in the land, to find a place, which can keep her always safe.

She wandered everywhere around, to learn how to be a happy soul.

She wandered back and forth with her loaded thoughts to know what is 'life' and what is 'happiness'......after all?

She was flying inside in her mind to find it all, and now she knew what it means to love oneself and to stay content......it is the secret recipe which has it all!

- Suganthi Sankaran

From my lockdown diaries 3.0

Live Positive Way - From my lockdown diaries (2)

Live Positive Way

“A real friend is one who walks-in when the rest of the world walks-out”. – Walter Winchell.

Yes! 'Friendship' is one factor in our life, which we all feel so important. I really pity those who say they don’t have any friends. This life can be felt as 'totally incomplete' if we are not with friends.

We can have so many people--- 'acquaintances'---whom we call as 'friends'. But are they our 'real friends'? 

Dude! Don’t get confused with the two contradicting statements above. I am not here to write about this new era of friendship. I want to talk about 'the friendship', which still stands out as 'unique' and validates the quote that I shared at the starting of this blog.

When I was young, my most favourite pass time with my dad was hearing bedtime stories. He always chose to tell me either Ramayana or Mahabharata stories in installments. Even the smallest character of the epic(s) wouldn't escape my dad’s narration. Those stories formed an integral part of my upbringing. When I fast-forward a few decades, and now, when I am watching the old Television episodes of Mahabharata---after a long gap of 30+ years---I feel delighted and feel a sense of gratitude permeating me fully for the valuable and quality time spent by my Dad in narrating those stories to me.

I register my gratitude and respect to my dad for spending his valuable time for me. Those were the days in which he used to be very tired, but still, he never ever had disappointed me by skipping the doses of narration from my favourite epic Mahabharata. May be it is now my favourite, but the truth is, he made me cultivate that fondness through his passionate narration. 

Oh! Guess this post is getting diverted now. I have infinite number of things to talk about my dad, which I can in my other posts, now coming back to “friendship”.

'Hinduism' is such a lovely religion in which each and every character, everything has some thing to teach us. I have always loved Mahabharata over Ramayana. My close associates know the reason. It is special because of my Shri Krishna's presence in it. My other reason is the Great character, eminent warrior, “Dhanveer”(a man who would never refuse the request for any donation), the most charming, sensible and extra-ordinary person “Karna” in the epic.

To the people who don’t know who he is… he is the eldest and spiritual son of Kunti (by the blessings of Surya, the Sun God) who got estranged from her immediately after birth. He later got identified by Duryodhan for his skills, and he gifted his small kingdom called “Anga” to him at a critical juncture. Duryodhan can be the main antagonist of Mahabharata but the love he had for Karna is also extraordinary. Some people say that it his selfishness to have someone so skilled like Karna at his side but I have never seen him as a coward Prince. He himself is a great warrior. It may be a boon that he got a great friend like  “Karna.” Karna’s friendship towards Duryodhan should be considered as an 'Epitome of Friendship' in my opinion.

Karna knew ‘Pandavas’ were his own brothers much before the Kurushetra war but he valued his friendship and honoured the trust his friend had in him and decided not to leave Duryodhan.

My dad used to say if he had expressed even once to Duryodhan that he is the elder brother of Pandavas, Mahabharath war might have never taken place and Duryodhan would have accepted his friend as his own brother and given up the plan to wage war and even sacrificed his throne for his friend Karna.

The amazing virtue possessed by Karna didn’t allowed him to disclose his birth secrets even to his wife. Just before the war his mother Kunti meets him and pleads to change his side, but he declines it by saying he cannot leave Duryodhan who gave him love and affection when the whole world degraded him. The greedy mother Kunti (sorry for saying so but it’s painful to see she didn’t accept him even after many years.) took a promise from him that he should only fight with Arjun and not with his other brothers and he should not attempt to kill any of them. She also pleaded with him to use “Nagastra” (divine weapon) only once on Arjun. He promised all that knowing well it will only led him towards death but still he stood by his friend and for the friendship. Somehow the North Indian version of Mahabharata narration misses out some beautiful aspects which we read in South Indian depiction of Mahabharata about the Karna-Duryodhan friendship. It was even recorded that Duryodhan mourned only for Karna in the entire loss.

We always miss out some positive qualities in antagonist since we get engrossed in the core story of the epic. But it is not that always a person will be bad with everyone. He can be an antagonist in the story, he can be against dharma or good people but that does not make them 'absolutely bad' either. If you happen to revisit Mahabharata via YouTube telecast or books don’t restrict yourself with Krishna-Arjun friendship and Gitasaar. See the unseen part of Karna-Duryadhana friendship too. That is the true example of unconditional love among friends and an Epitome of Friendship.

I wish to be a “Karna” to my friends, and I pray that I could always stand by those friends who need me in their lives, since…, ”A real friend is one who walks in when the rest of the world walks out.”

From my lockdown diaries… 2.0

- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way - From my lockdown diaries....

Live Positive Way

My hubby asked me, “what happened to your blog posts? You have enough time now to write!"  So here comes my new post!

It's 'Lock down time'! Yes, too much news buzzing around about the present pandemic situation. What to do? What not to do? My mind is engrossed in the daily emerging data, its ups & downs. But as a 'positive thoughts blogger' isn’t it my priority and responsibility to post something positive to my blog walkers at this time?

Restricted movements. Even walking exercise confined to ones’ home. No cable TV connection to watch movies. In a way it has become a blessing in disguise since I am restricted only to watch a few news updates.  Otherwise, I might have tuned into Times Now, Republic and CNN most of the time.

Many more compromises in kitchen zone. Unable to make and eat what we like, but still feel blessed we have food to eat, whereas many still wander with hunger.

Fine! These are my challenges and hope that is yours as well. Now what can be done to make use of this time productively. How to stay positive despite the challenges?

Here are a few things I am doing to keep myself active.

First of all, whenever we see a news related to the present situation, we must mute our negative thought button. Switch back to the positive affirmation, “this too will pass”! Yes, this will surely pass since nothing is permanent here, so is this too.

Secondly, re-engage with the hobbies which can give you utmost satisfaction.  Something which you did in your childhood days but couldn’t pursue due to various reasons.  My regular readers know that I keep insisting on this. Practising your hobby can help you stay young and happy.  I love singing and dancing. I had never ever left it. It helps me to stay self motivated and keep me going even in this tough time. Doing Zumba with my daughter and daily singing practice with her (we just finished our karaoke sessions singing a telugu song, the language which we are not familiar with), gives a lot of happiness to both of us. Specially to my female buddies, who are now burdened with so much work, I want to say that those chores can wait for a while. It’s nothing wrong if you decide to spend some time for yourself. Take some time out for yourself.

I am both a spiritual and religious person. I wish my child too, to follow those religious practices.  So I am using this time to educate her about our customs, cultures and values which make us a mature human being! Luckily my child is not hooked to cartoon characters and hence it is easy for me to pull her and make her watch and learn them. Watching Mahabharata together is our most favourite bonding time now. I believe any parent can influence their child by doing things which they want their children to do. I am sure they will surprise you by doing them along with you!

Books indeed are great friends! I don’t feel bored since I have so many books to read. With many online links available for readers free of charge we can choose what we like and start reading. I have a few friends who keep saying, “I can’t read a book post one page". I feel that is perfectly fine. Just read that one page a day.  If the content is good, we will end up reading the whole book soon. Think about the knowledge we can gain through this process instead of reading some fake news which can create a panic attack in our heart?

I was in Vippasana Meditation and had the bliss of enjoying 10 days of noble silence (I am not asking you to practice noble silence but can meditate for a while to boost your inner consciousness). This silence that you are feeling around you now is never going to repeat again hence make the best use of it. Instead of tiring car horns and speeding vehicle sounds, we are now able to hear birds chirp and can see birds flying peacefully in clean air above. Let them also have a great time.

I just remember my conversation with my husband about an old tamil story of a famous writer Sujatha, “Yen Iniya Iyandira”. The story revolves around robots taking over the universe. I told my hubby, like every other creature what if some day humans go extinct on earth? But never thought a small micro element can destroy so many lives and cage the entire universe before even we could realise what was happening. Think friends!  Nothing is superior to 'Nature' including the human intelligence. Hence let us all bow down in front of mother nature, God or whatever you call it and feel good that we are still there alive. We can change for better.

Much more to come in coming days…..

From my lockdown diaries……….. 

- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way

She inspires me to stay alive,
with her lovely smile.

She motivates me to stay strong,
with her gentle pat on my back
when I am down.

She uplifts my spirit to a new high,
when she reassures me that she is
there to support me.

She helps me cherish every moment
of my life, with her bright lovely eyes.

She, at times scolds me (sweetly),
and then pampers me,
when she role plays me.

She inspires me, motivates me,
lifts me up when she says,
“I’m there, your supporter,
your daughter ma,
stay the way you are ma,
do whatever you want to do,
never quit your work, never change,
be you, since I am there for you”.

The one and only, Ananya Parmesh, my darling daughter,
She Inspires Me. Every daughter inspire us so #SheInspiresUs
Dedicated to all the daughters of India
- Suganthi Sankaran
Thanks for this opportunity our PM Narendra Modi ji 

Live Positive Way - Happy New year 2020!

Live Positive Way - My friend!

Often, people these days feel, they are well-connected through whatsapp, facebook, instagram and other social networks. We feel that we get connected easily with anyone and everyone through these networks, but does it really work that way?

I am recollecting my childhood days, when people have to share something or discuss something, they have to physically reach their friend's place and have a discussion with them, but now, they all are "just one touch away".....that's how we feel, isn't it. But does it work that way?

Nowadays, we all are added to various social networking groups, which includes, office groups, school friends' group, college friends' group, which at times gets further extended to other small to big friends' groups connected to different communities, associations, etc.  To add to this, if you have a school-going-child at home then you are 'by default' be part of all those school groups too.  Does this really mean we got so many people to stand by us?

I hardly find anyone having time these days (including you & me). We all are in social networks just to read and forward messages. To be frank I am so weak in that too.  Half of the forward videos I hardly even download fearing filling up my phone memory and the add-on memory card.

In normal days still all these are just fine.  We are busy with our own work and job and set in the routine life.  Suddenly when something happens, we get struck in between in a terrible situation, feeling overwhelmed due to some sudden change, feeling low and upset and really want someone to care then this big panic struck situation will hit us hard and we will realise all these days we were just 'connected' for receiving and forwarding messages.  When you long for someone to share their shoulder to cry on, or to call and listen to you or want a soothing message, we feel an emotional emptiness. We may get to face the hard reality that though there are so many 'known' to us yet there is no one really there for us, yet we cannot blame them for being busy!

These words coming from a positive thought blogger is not to make you feel upset. Not at all.  There is always a solution for every challenge. I keep blogging about it always and I follow what I preach.  There is one magical solution, which can help us during difficult times…. All the time.  Still not able to get it? 

It is your hobbies friends!

Never leave your hobbies, whatever be your favourite hobby, hold on to it.  It will help you keep your emotions in control. It can provide you the much needed support you anticipate and will make you feel like someone being around during the tough days.  It will help you to stay busy and can keep you happy and motivated. On the personal front, even during the rough phase of my life I have continued singing and sharing my tracks with my friends, they might have even wondered how am I able to sing during my worst phase but actually it is the other way around…singing helps me stay calm.  I will also be seen practising Zumba with my daughter or at times read back-to-back books of my choice.  All these hobbies has helped me stay happy, keep going and get less disheartened when I see no messages from the ones I wish to hear from or when I anticipate an enquiry message from the loved ones during my tough days and when it does not happen. 

Again there are always few buddies who keep extending their support to us, as always, but it is not good to take advantage of them, burden them with all our tensions and instead we can steamline our thoughts to keep ourselves happy.

Hobbies are and will continue to be our greatest friends. I sincerely wish, the one who had left singing, dancing, painting, gardening, reading will start doing them right away after reading this blogpost.

Wishing all very Happy Days ahead! 

Stay Positive & Keep yourself happy!

- Suganthi Sankaran

Live Positive Way - My little sweet human beings.....

My little sweet human beings.....

"Look at her! She hasn’t completed her work".

"Oh God, how many times should I tell him, still he doesn’t seem to follow anything that I say".

"Why isn’t she able to do the chores herself?"

"Does he have any problem? I am tired of explaining him several times but still he is not able to follow my instructions".

"Why can’t she write legibly? She is now 6 years old and still not able to write."

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These are some comments I get to hear from people around me on a daily basis.  This blog post is addressed to them. 

It’s not tough to be a 'special educator' and handle children with learning difficulties but yes it is painful to explain people around me to not to keep on complaining about the children with "learning difficulties".

Yes, they are not like you and me, they are 'different'. But they are not like other children who forget to wish you ‘Good Morning’ when you pass by.  They just love you with 'full heart' since they are not like you and me. 

They come running to you, cuddle you, shower all their love on you. They are not like you and me who just remembers others only if something is required.

At times it takes just a few seconds for them to make you happy with their innocent smile or continuous imaginary talks. Yes, they are not like you and me who knows to talk diplomatically only to grab the attention and to seek recognition. 

They clap for their friends without an iota of greed when their friends get appreciated for good grades or badges. They are not like you and me, yes, because they just don't know how to fake it in front of the world.

These tiny human beings are simply trying to gain a small space in this world, in their home, in the school and in your heart. Yes, they are not like you and me. They don't hurt others deliberately with their tantrums, they simply don't know how to express their inner feelings in a 'matured manner' like you and me.

Yes, they are not like you and me. But they at times amaze us with some of their unique talents and even teach us life lessons.... but as most of the times we are busy ignoring them we don't even recognise them, since they are not 'like you and me'.

You and me are on a constant pursuit of success, money and fame, so it is but natural that they don't have time to care about these little angels who just need some acceptance and recognition. This world is so cruel. Oh yes I know, they are not like you and me.

Call it a phrase that troubles me, or an outburst of my emotions or the pain that I feel in my heart every time I see these kids getting ignored and hear others complaining about my sweetheart--since I am their therapist and I know them well--I thought I should pen it down today.

Just one thing I can ask you all.

Be more empathetic, loving and caring towards them.

A little more patience, a little more affection and a little more time to share, will make a big difference to them.

You know better they are not like you and me, yes, but for me they are above all of us in leading an 'authentic happy life'.

- Suganthi Sankaran